Posted by
tinyteddy
16 yrs ago
Hi girls, I'm looking for a bit of advice on what you all say to reject a date.
I have trouble at work not knowing what to say. The guys know I am single so I can't invent a husband or bf suddenly. They are colleagues so want to be polite but unsure of the wording.
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emsa
16 yrs ago
It really depends on your caracter... I would just say "No, thanks" (the "thanks" is just because I'm polite, if you are rude you can just skip it :))
If you don't like to be so direct you can go with the world famous "I'm busy" but you risk to have this guy coming back checking for new dates...
Really girl, it's never been a problem to reject a guy, the problem is when they reject you!
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"Sorry luv, I'm washing my hair"???
"I see you like a brother"
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You simply say that you don't mix your work life with your social life, ie. you don't date work colleagues. It can actually make life very difficult in the work place if you date a colleague/have a relationship, and things don't work out ... it really is best not to mix the two. No offence should be taken by any guy who asks your for a date and give this reason.
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Simply say " NO " and tell him you want to be his colleague ONLY.
What makes you think it is difficult ???
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Demby
16 yrs ago
It is extremely unprofessional if men at your office are propositioning you in the work place.
Begin with a no thank you, I don't mix work life with social and if they continue to be sexist in the work place, inform HR and have a formal non conformance report issued.
If HR refuse to act in accordance to the Quality Assurance Procedure, employ a lawyer, and sue the company for lack of duty of care and go for a minimum of $100K US suit. If the staff are behaving like this, it's because the male staff aren't managed professionally, and deserve to be litigated accordingly..
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"It is extremely unprofessional if men at your office are propositioning you in the work place."
Hello? On which planet do you live? You do know the statistics that work is the place where most relationships start (at least in the west)?
The issue is simple: If someone flirts at work, then it's ok if the other person likes it, and not ok if the other person doesn't like it (of course there are elements that should never be tolerated but it's news to me that asking for a date (lunch?) belongs to them).
So the key point for the OP is to clearly articulate her opinion - verbally or non-verbally. Nothing special about that, millions of women (and some men) have done it before.
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