child psychologist

Hi, my friend's daughter is exhibiting displays of violent behaviors, lying, is disrespectful to her parents and often fights with other little kids at kindy. she is only aged 4 and her parents are really worried. They have taken her to couselling, but the sessions don't seem to help.

Working in HK, the parents often work late and don't have the time or energy to play or be with her.


Police have been called to the apartment because the child was crying non-stop because the parents wont give in to her demands. She knows that she can get away with anything and can demand for things when she throws a tantrum.


Has anyone had any similar experience and are there any child psychologists that may be of help??


The parents are really worried and I don't know how to help. Any advise would be appreciated


Thanks

thanks. I have advised them on what they should do when she misbehaves, drawing on what and how my mom bought us up. However, time out doesn't work for her, as she wont sit still, and she cries endlessly. She makes her dad tell her that he loves her, even when she has misbehaved and he tries to talk to her. He plays with her whenever he has time.

He would want to work less hours, but in this day and age, who leaves the office on time. When supervisors sees workers leaving on time, they think that the worker is not given enough work and would pile on more work.


The benefits provided by the HK Govt is insufficient to help families, unlike western countries, where the tax is high, but the benefits are more sufficient to help with struggling families. why else would both parents need to work.


Its heartbreaking to see them both try to make things work, but the modern day family is not the same family model as our parents generation, where only one parent needed to work whilst the other stayed at home to look after the kid.


We all know that kids need their parents, but which parents are willing to give their kids less than other kids are getting. In this day and age, kids are being compensated for the lack of love / family love with materialistic things.


Its heartbreaking to see children without family love grow up in this world. They don't have the same type of upbringing my generation had. But what can one do, when prices for even the most basic need is sky rocketing?


sigh....,

I don't know this family, but I have some observation on "environmental factors".


You can't blame time or modern society. I know parents who spend a lot of time with their kids but are disasters as parents. Conversely I know really busy parents with thriving happy children.


Time is a factor, but not the main issue.



"which parents are willing to give their kids less than other kids are getting. "


Parents shouldn't hide behind this. Never be afraid to "deny" your kids all this material stuff that their friends are getting. They'll be perfectly happy without it.


"The benefits provided by the HK Govt is insufficient to help families, unlike western countries, where the tax is high, but the benefits are more sufficient to help with struggling families. why else would both parents need to work. "


You can't blame the government. I have lived in countries with a well developed social network and there are just as many kids with problems there.