Posted by
sampaguita
15 yrs ago
My daugther is being bullied by class-mates and intimidated. School cannot do anything. When she was Form 1, it was ok but when reach Form 2, the classmates she was close before had changed and tried to act Triad. I am very happy that she has her belief in God and constant worship in Sunday School had bond her not to change. Now I am looking for another school for her.. But what should I say if they ask why I want to change her school..
Please help me.. getting depressed with this.
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Will they think maybe your daughter is also their kind but the weaker one.. Will they think I am trying to bad mouth their school.. She is now pushing herself to study hard for the exam to show some schools their grade... One of the girls, a 13 year old even said to her she will ask her BF to rape her... I called those girls on the phone and I really scream at them.. the school said they will investigate and tell their parents but this is not enough. but I can understand they cannot do anything as it is already a trend in their school.. I really regret entering her in that school...
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i agree with cara.
you don't need to give the school any reason for withdrawal. if you do, tell them the truth. they can't handle their students and your daughter is being bullied by it. it's ridiculous that a child in form 2 can say something such as asking her bf to rape someone. it's not tolerable. remove your daughter from there asap.
u shouldn't be depressed. you should be proud of yourself and of your daughter for standing for her beliefs and for yourself for having raised such a strong young lady.
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Thank you all for your advices.. we did make action.. we made threats that we will report to the Police... Her 2 older brothers even went to the school demanding to see the students.. the girls ran off. My daughter has some school friends around her protecting her and comforting her. but she said it is depressing but she wants to finish this examination so she said at least she can show to the prospective school her school results and her merits.
I was meaning what should I tell the New School why I want to pull her out. She even continue her dance club saying she does not want her efforts to be gone for the competition... Once I settled my daughter, I would certainly make a report to the Police.. Its my husband who stop me from calling the Police when I heard the tape.. he said give them a chance if we can find they are willing to do so...
Will the new school believe us?...
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Of course your should tell the new school. Why should they not believe you? Few people would pull their kids out of school in the middle of the year without a very good reason.
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My friends told me to be careful of what to say to the new school..that is why I would like to ask the Parents here for opinion. I have no experience in this.. My sons got bullied but they fought their way without telling me and its only after they graduate they told me how they survive. The teachers said 5 per cent was my daughter's mistake... one of the kid acted poor and my daugther showed her generosity.. my daughter is very keen on charity and helping her under-priviledge classmates and they thought we were rich and then blackmail her for a iphone/ipad. The teacher said maybe my daugther showed that she didnt care about money at all... On that week when I found out, I really got crazy and even follow one of the girl attending a Contest.. I played the tape and she was so ashamed of herself.. I called them non-stop.. they were scared but not for long. I told my daughter to fight, be strong or otherwise call the Police direct no need the teacher..These 12 year old girls are so different from our innocent years.
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Honesty is the best strategy in the long run.
Also, don't lower yourself to their level by calling them and such. You'll never win by playing their game and trying to out-intimidate them.
"The teachers said 5 per cent was my daughter's mistake.."
This teacher is an idiot.
"These 12 year old girls are so different from our innocent years."
I think that's a myth. We just can't remember properly. Plenty of cruel kids of both sexes when I was a 12-year old.
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I'm with cara (quelle surprise). You called the bullies non-stop? Seriously? You should be teaching your daughter to rise above such pettiness.
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If I would explain in detail maybe you all wont mis-understand me.. I called non-stop demanding their explaination for the voice mail they left for my daugther. Naturally I would be angry but I never swear or use foul language, I didnt say things like they do. I wanted to speak to them first before deciding to call the Police.. I follow one girl to a Speech Contest because my daugher is also a contestant and she dont want to miss it.. I let her hear the tape and let her know how hurting and how bad it sound like.. I didnt broadcast it, I led her in a quiet corner and told her how a mother felt.. this one cry but the others were proud of what they did. I did try to stop my daugthter from going to school and have been sending letters to apply other schools. but my daughter would not give in to these bullies no matter how depressing it could be for her.... I did encourage her to fight (defense) and even ask her to pray for protection.. She prays before she leaves the house.
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Really I didnt swear or use foul language to them because I know that would jeopardize my intention to correct them during that time and would put me in a bad light if I ever I want to sue. I was naturally angry and going crazy but I didnt call the Police.. I guess this would solve the problem if I had but my husband wanted to give them a chance if they are trully repentant. I am not wasting my time on these bullies as you can see all I ask was what to say to the New School because I have been receiving different sugestions like dont tell the truth, the new school wont believe you, tell the truth but hide some etc...
Thank you all...
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Now that I have gather the advices here.. I will tell the new school the truth about what happen..
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