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Ed
14 yrs ago
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/cifamerica/2011/jun/11/conversation-strict-parenting-amy-chua
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It is not better at all. If you are strict the children have less liberty and can cause future problems. I will push him to rebel himself against parents.If children feel you are strict they will dislike you and can have a totally different relationship with theirs parents. They will lie to you, ignore you or even insult you. if you are not strict children will feel that you're always nice with them and they can do what they like ( which sometimes is very good ) and they say to themselves..if they're nice with me than ill be too and they try to make the parents happy by studying more for example. Strict parenting does bring any positive things whereas being non strict brings many positive things. Let your children grow and be himself and do whatever he is interested in he has to think for himself and become autonomous ! Do give a mean and strict image to your children, show them who you really are so they can become who they really are.
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There is a difference between strict and dictatorial. You cannot ONLY be strict but in some areas (e.g. table manners) it can be very helpful.
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The issue with the author's 'Chinese' model of parenting isn't so much the strictness but the sheltered childhood which IMO doesn't add to a child's development.
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Well put bbrave. Very well put.
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As in all life, moderation is key.
All my life I have seen the example of what is called "strict" or "lazy" parenting. I subscribe to a balance of both. I attempt to be strict enough to provide a mindset of discipline, and yet easy enough to support the concept of unconditional love.
While all this is happening, it is my job to help ensure that she has the tools necessary to be a functioning adult and member of society, if not a leader.
Some would call me irresponsible, and that is fine. Some still would call me strict, and I am OK with that. As a parent, I am fortunate enough to not suffer the pressures of other idiot parents.
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