discipline my 2-year-old girl

Hi, We are having very terriable time with our two year daughter. She is getting out of control. She like to play so much donot have sleep cycle. She sleeps late like 1am and gets up one or two times at night. this is same from begining. She likes to play with Iphone I know this is bad habbit else she also like to see photos in digital camera holding camera then go to sleep. I worry this is not goods for her eyes but we have no choice. Now she is almost 2.1 year old. she creams alot and when you go out she walks few min then wants you to lift her up in arms. is there anything we can do to stop this. it is really gettting out of hand. we like to have second child but if situation is like this it will be really hard. my wifes is housewife and all the time she is with her.

thanks

My 3 children are grown and on their own. My wife and I had a very easy time of raising our children, but we started with a strong concept about what we wanted our children to grow into and a plan for getting there. Unfortunately, I have never met a mother who really wanted to change how she did things. Mothers often regret how her children behave, but it is exceedingly rare that she accepts that her children are acting exactly as they were trained. She only wants other people to tell her how wonderful her children are and how wonderful she is as a mother. I could offer very useful advise, but I'm not sure you want to hear it. Ultimately, it is about your wife's attitude and personal self discipline. Normally, regret about bad behavior by her children is not enough. She has to see that her style of training is at fault and she wants to do something differently.


Unfortunately, you have already lost the best time to train children. I think 3-9 months of age is a golden time period when training is very, very easy. By one year of age, more than half of a person's patterns of interacting with people are already established. Many people don't even start training until the child can talk. By 3 years of old everything is a fight. 2 years of age is late in the game, but not too late if you have a clear idea in mind.


Child training is very culturally based. Our training concept was very successful for raising children for our social/cultural community. In our case, we were very rigid very early on and gave increasing amounts of freedom at 3, 5, 7, etc years of age. We aimed at our children developing into very independent, self-reliant adults. The traditional Chinese or Japanese approach has a different end in mind, so uses different techniques. I am appalled by my Chinese neighbor's child training style, but I accept that their goals are different from mine.