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but u do love the first baby still right?im so afraid of pains,i chose c cut the first time.but labour pains came only the last last minutes right?didnt the injections help?
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thats the point.i mean c cut is painful too right?so i might as well have a faster recovery thats what makes me change my mind.i love my first born too but i just want to feel whats is like going thru labour.how long is your second labour?
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my partner knows that i have low tolerance of pains,and he prefers the c cut.i have such a fantasy idea that i can pull thru labour,he fears i may scream and give up halfway thru labour and opt for c cut again.this fantasy planning of ,-i can take laboour pains,doesnt seem to go well with reality.
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so megan,what have you decided?i have low tolerance too.i dont want to give up halfway when i can easily opt for c section/
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We are exploring our options right now and our OB has suggested that a c section may be necessary/preferable. In questioning him, he made it sound like a c section would require less time to recover versus a difficult natural delivery due to recent advances in surgical methods (with regard to the size/location of the cut and using glue instead of staples, etc.). Back home, insurance usually gives an extra couple of weeks of disability leave for a c section, so we couldn't figure out if he was telling the truth (with regard to the c section recovery being fairly quick and less painful) or just telling us what he preferred. It seems like there are a lot of c sections in Hong Kong. Hard to know the underlying reason, although I have my own guess.
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many gfs told me natural delivery is painful but better than going under the knife.doctors here are mostly happy to have you delivered via c.did they use glue?i thought the doctors just sew the wound up surgically,no?
i have had painful recovery only on the second day,as the painkillers didnt work,but was on my way to recovery by the fifth day,that i meant,lesser pains but still have to take care of not hurting the wound when you sleep or walk.very inconvenient.i heard of horrible difficult deliveries,which makes my mind set on c section for my firstborn.but im really tempted to try normal delivery this time.i hope i make the right choice.
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crj
20 yrs ago
I always thought I wanted a natural birth because I heard a woman recovers from a natural birth faster than a c-section.
I heard with a c-section that you take longer to heal because they cut through abdomin muscles which are slow to heal.
Well, now I am pregnant, and I have been reading about labour... even though I want a natural delivery (with epidural and as many drugs as they can give me) I am now worried about the pain...
My concern is not about bonding, it is purely selfish (I admit that easily), and about pain and my ability to handle it... my husband questions this too.
For those of you that have had BOTH... what do you think is better?
1. Is the pain of childbirth really that bad? Or is the bad pain just 2-3 hours?
2. Is the recovery from natural childbirth faster than from C-Section
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seems that many of you doesnt want to take epidural because of the side effects.if i go for a natural birth,i should probably get epidural since im pain intolerance and basically no confident in dealing with labour,worried i might just give up and wanted c section by the end of the day when already the muscles are pulling.ok ,so here's the question:Do you think it be a stupid idea for me to have natural birth with epidural,results in tearing of the vagina where i havent tear before since i had c section on the first birth...or should i just go ahead to have c section where i already had one before?thanks!!!!
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RiceT
20 yrs ago
lesroses - Have you been to antenatal classes?
If not, let me know, and I can share some information...or at least a website or two with you...supporting VBAC's (vaginal births after c-sections).
All in all, if you have this desire to try natural birthing, DO IT. Our bodies and babies know what to do. And if you choose to get an epidural during it, ok too.
C-Section rates are high here in HK...one of the reasons for this is that some people want to be able to choose EXACTLY when their babies are born so they can pick a "lucky" time. There are other reasons too...convenience factor being one of them. Some docs will sometimes be pro C-section because they don't have to wait around AND C-sections pay them more.
Seriously, if you'd like for me to send you more info, just let me know. Giving birth is a process created by nature itself, and if you have the desire to do it, do it. Epidural can help you relieve pain; there are other methods too. Epidurals (according to all the classes and lectures I've been too, and all of the information I've read so far...and it's a lot!) administered correctly have less of an effect on the baby than do the drugs you may take during a C-Section.
Also, not sure if this is another factor for your hesitation, but if you are concerned about whether an epidural will hurt, most women I've spoken to have felt hardly any pain from it. I know there are a lot of rumors about how BIG the needle is and PAIN from it, etc., but again, most woman say it didn't hurt them at all...some feel a pinch. That's it, and then the pain left and they were still able to feel and push. Of course, without ANY drugs you can feel even more and likely know when to push even more effectively. But you can also FEEL even more of the pain!
As for tearing and/or episiotomy, there are things you can do to try to minimize chances of this happening. Doctors also need to be told not to rush things (if not necessary) and to give the cervix time to do its thing and open wide on its own. Rushing is one of the big causes of tearing; pushing at the wrong time (too early) can lead to tearing.
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oh,i didnt know the faster you push,the faster you tear.
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RiceT
20 yrs ago
Tearing isn't about pushing too fast necessarily. It's about your body (the right parts need to be stretched and open...they will usually do this naturally given time, etc.)needing to be ready for the push...so some people are ready and can push at that time and maybe even sooner than others, while other women are not ready, and should not be told to push at those times. Inductions can sometimes lead to tearing because your body (and those particular parts) may not be totally ready for the pushing and contractions; in other words, inductions can sometimes 'rush' the process along...without all parts in place. Drugs can sometimes increase the likelihood of tearing because sometimes the mom can't quite feel when she should actually be pushing. Mummy's right though: a midwife or good OB can be a HUGE help in telling mum when to push if mum can't quite tell on her own; in fact it is shown that midwives and doulas significantly reduce the occurrence of tearing.
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so basically it all depends on your luck of finding a good ob and midwife.i still do fear even with all the encouragements given and thanks for that.i kow is a natural process but i think i THINK too much ,results in unnessarily worries.i should use the nike advert motto-just do it!!,shouldnt i .:)
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Am glad to find a thread about this topic.
I delivered my first baby by C-section a QMH after 10 hours labour. I took the epidural since the pain was really bad during labour and after it was just great, minimum pain, I could even sleep and rest, trying to keep energy to push the baby later. But eventually I was not dilating well and I had an emergency C-section. Being already under epidural, the anaesthetic just had to increase the quantity and I was awake during the operation and could hear my baby cries and saw her immediately. Epidural was not painful at all, because labour pain was so painful that I could not feel anything else ! And I did not want any other pain relied drug as I've read they have more side effects than epidural.
Also I think recovery is easier after epidural than after general anaesthesy for the C-section, as I had some surgery previously under general anaesthesy and it takes several hours to regain consciousness.
What I really want to say is I had a quite 'good' experience of emergency C-section under epidural although I was expecting a natural delivery, and I was not disappointed or suspicious about having a C-section 'too quickly' as I felt the doctors let me try it for 10 hours and at the end of the day I just wanted this to be over. I experienced very few pain due to the scar and it took me 2 weeks to recover completely. I just felt a bit frustrated as I could not really carry the baby too much at the beginning or give her the bath on my own. I was also able to breastfeed with no problem.
Now I am pregnant for the 2nd time, and baby is due in March, ie only 14 months after 1st delivery, and I've started reading about VBAC. I hope I could opt for natural delivery, but am concerned for 2 reasons:
1st: I'll go to public hospital again and they are usually not very encline to 'delicate' deliveries, and also you do not have one specific doctor to discuss about this with throughout the pregnancy and get prepared
2nd: the time gap between the 2 deliveries being quite short I wonder whether this increases the risk of uterine rupture and therefore whether wanting a natural delivery is not the right choice.
I would love to hear from anyone having experienced this in HK public hospital and also in general if anyone has info/websites about VBAC
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CBEDI
20 yrs ago
I think it is important to understand the risks and benefits of a vbac vs csection and most hosptial antenatal classes are not going to cover this topic. You must find caregivers that are going to support your choice for a vbac. Ask your gynae open ended questions that will support your beliefs for a vbac - what is your csection rate, how do you feel about vbacs? how often do you find it necessary to perform episiotomy, how do you feel about me birthing off the bed (less chance for a tear) how do you feel about me eating and drinking during labour? There are ways to reduce the discomforts felt during labour. It is the fear of labour, which causes tension, resulting in pain. Try looking for a hypnobirthing practitioner near you.
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Thank you very much for your replies.
Having no other alternative than going to public hospital I guess my alternatives for delivery will be quite reduced however I'll definitely go and see some private midwife and take more in-depth ante-natal classes. I think if my husband and I feel confident about the labour we should be able to be assertive with the hospital nurses and doctors to try a natural delivery. Also being a 2nd time we'll know what to expect and how to react.
Thanks again feedback was very encouraging !
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CBEDI
20 yrs ago
When you are offered procedures by your gynae and hospital staff an easy way to make informed decisions is to ask questions. An easy way to remember is TBRAND T= How much time do we have to make a decision?, B= What are the benefits of what you are suggesting?, R= What are the risks of what you are suggesting?, A= What are our alternatives?, N= What if we chose to do nothing?, D= From the answers you receive and from the books you have read in advance, make a decision. Good books to read to empower you to make informed decisions, try anything by Henci Goer, Suzanne Arms, Ina May Gaskins. They believe that birth is a natural physiological event, not something that requires medical intervention. There are emergencies, but knowing what are true emergencies will guide you to making the right choices for you. Good luck and happy birthing!
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Okie
20 yrs ago
I had my first via emergency c-section. I had the second as V-BAC. I would totally recommend the vaginally delivery. The first child I had an epidural and was in labor forever. After determining that he was too large to fit through the birth canal, he was delivered C-sec. Recovery was dreadful. I was in so much pain that I could hardly hold my son for days. I felt that it caused me to miss out on a lot of "first" such as first diaper change and first bath, etc. The second baby; I had no pain meds and she was out in one hour. I was up walking around that evening and I went home the next day. It's a personal choice, but in my opinion if you want less pain have a vaginal delivery.
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Lesroses - why have you changed the title and text of this thread? The responses are now no longer relevant to your original question.
Your new question is also interesting but quite different. It might be best to change this one back to how it was and just start a new thread?
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