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Well2
19 yrs ago
bleeding at 6 weeks. Beta very low only 357. Couldn't even see a thing with ultasound. Guess gonna miscarry...So sad, empty, heartbroken...
Eveything happened just too quicky. I still can't believe it...
Seeing my doc later...
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Well, dont be sad and think negative ok
Based on experience, during the time my sis in pregnancy state, she also bleed at times. Never leads to miscarriage. the baby is healthy.
Just pray hard that yours is doing ok.
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Well2- I wish you all the best that it is still a keeper. Keep an eye on your BBT to see if it is actually falling.
It's not unusual to bleed during pregnancy and some don't bleed even when miscarrying like Sasha. It's estimated that 25% of all women have bleeding in early pregnancy. One possible cause of this bleeding is implantation bleeding which is okay.
If it is not meant to be this time, take comfort that at least you know you CAN get pregnant and WILL get pregnant again - as my obgyn said.
Best of luck!!
Sunny
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Hi dear,
I know how you feel as I had 4 previous miscarriages. I had also bleeding for my 2 other pregnancies ( which I have 2 healthy beautiful daughters) Many women have this so be positive..Also at 6 weeks it is very early stage so you may not see much in the scan, or you may be only 4, 5 weeks you never know. best thing is go rest in bed now, and not to lift any heavy stuffs or exercise before you see your doctor later. Good luck.
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Well -
take it one step at a time. at 6 weeks, very little is seen on the ultrasound - nature has it's way of taking care of problems in pregnancy - miscarriage is one of them. My father says that statistically more than 50% of pregnancies probably end in miscarriage - it's just that women get periods and aren't aware. Our ability to detect pregnancy so early has made it all the more heartbreaking at the same time...so don't fret. one day at a time. We will think good thoughts for you - and keep us posted.
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Well2 - the best of luck with your doctors apppointment. I hope that is is all just a false alarm.
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Hi Well2,
You know we are all here to support you. Pray pray and pray, it might be still too early to detect it, did you do vaginal ultrasound last Saturday then had the bleeding afterwards? Did you see Dr. Ho? You are in good hands, he is a good doctor. Take care. (Huggss)
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Oh Well2, such a sad time now while you wait to know more....isn't it amazing how attached you can get to your little one in just 6 weeks.
I really hope this turns out just be a scare and nothing more, you'll know soon enough. In the meantime, lots of good thoughts and e-hugs {{{}}} coming your way.
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Well2
19 yrs ago
Hi everyone, thanks for all your supports.
Just been to Dr Ho. Unfortunitely confirmed that its already a "HISTORY". Was very sad the entire weekend. But now am fine.
Studies show 1 in 5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. So my case is actually NOT uncommon and i shouldn't be too unhappy as its really not helping.
Well, at least i know i am ABLE to get pregnant. We will start trying again right away :-D Please wish us good luck. Tks!
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hi well2,
I know there's no word to comfort you. I'm glad you are taking things positively. Good luck!!!
May i please ask what do you mean the entire weekend? you mean you got to know about it last Saturday when you visited Dr. Ho?
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Well2,
did Dr Ho explain to you the caused of miscarriage? cuz some maybe be due to weak body, stress..etc. its good to know why at least you can take precaution the next time round. Good luck ok. Rooting on you!
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Well2
19 yrs ago
hi honeypie, I lost all preg symt few days ago. Got the beta result and did the scan on saturday with Dr Ho. Everything didn't seem right. I alreally knew it wasn't a keeper.
And i started bleeding yesterday morning. That made it even more obvious.
Hi Effiruz, Hubby and i read alot of info about miscarriage at home last night. It was just the common type (see www.babycenter.com) Search for miscarriage. Not by stress, body or anything. Just bad luck ! And Dr Ho confirmed it today.
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Well2 - so sorry to hear that. However, your attitude is very positive and that will hold you in good stead. It sounds like you have a very caring and reassuring doctor which is very important at times like this.
Good luck to you and your partner.
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I am so sorry to hear your loss, Well 2. I lost my first pregnancy at week 8, but I didn't bleed, and it probably stopped growing at week 7 or so. I also see Dr. Ho, and according to him and also according to all the books and reference, miscarriage at such early stage is just chlomosomal disorder and bad luck as you described. Exercise or stress do not normally cause miscarriage. So, I am glad that you are not thinking that it may be something you have done. Lots of people add pain by thinking it may be their fault, but it's really not. Don't ever think that way. I felt so empty for a while after m/c. It hit me suddenly every once in a while and just cried a lot for a few months. It took me a good few months to feel strong again, so don't worry if it happens to you too. You will be OK in time, but don't ever hesitate to tell us how you feel if you are depressed or sad. We are here to listen to you. But you have such positive attitude, I am sure a baby will come around quite soon!!! I am pregnant for the second time, and this time, it seems fine so far at 16th week. It took me 5months to get pregnant again, I have a feeling it will happen sooner for you.
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Well2 -
you sound remarkably healthy about this - and that is great. My first unexpected pregnancy was also a miscarriage - and it was a bit hard to get over the initial shock. But it's all good. You just have to wait one complete menstrual cycle and you can start trying again - you're an expert now so it'll be even easier this time. I'm really proud of the way you're taking it all in stride and just getting all the information. It's not your fault or anyone's fault. As I said earlier, my dad says that nature has a way of taking care of defects in the womb - and miscarriage is the merciful way - better than a baby that was born with congenital defects.
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Well2
19 yrs ago
tks so much. I feel much much much better after hearing all yours. Didn't know most of you had had miscarriage before. It's really more common than i thought it was....
Hubby and i decided to start TTC right away as Dr Ho suggested. Am still doing the BBT thing. Since i started bleeding yesterday, i would say yesterday was Day1. See, i really want it so badly!!!
Or should we wait one complete M cycle?
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Great that you can start right away. If Doctor tells you you are Ok to conceive, then it should be. With my m/c, as I had D&C to clearn out, Dr Ho suggested to wait a cycle. Go for it!!! Wishing you good luck. (And people say after m/c, your body is ready, and it is easier to get pregnant!!!!)
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Hiya Well2, so sorry to hear that, but glad that you're up and ready to go again!! I had two m/cs, but now am carrying a kicking, twisting gulping bubba at almost 25 weeks. The good news is that once you started strategising and planning, it happened naturally, so it will happen again!
The first time i m/c'd at 5 weeks, decided to give myself a couple of months, tried again, and m/c'd again (had my period on time after testing positive, obviously didn't stick), waited one more month, but the next month I went to a TCM doctor, did some accupuncture and herbal stuff to improve my kidney and spleen chi, and got preg that same month.
I could have tried the same month both times because it was so early, and when I went for an "all clear" ultrasound 2 weeks after my first m/c I had two large follicles on either ovary. Crikey. If I'd tried that month I might've gotten twins...oeeeer.
Good luck!!!!!!!
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Well2-
if Dr. Ho says it's okay -GO FOR IT! They do say that chances of conceiving after a miscarriage are higher - although I forget why that is. There is some medical explanation and I can ask my father for you if you like. Your miscarriage must have been a "clean" one which means that you are ready for some action...keep on charting, and we're looking forward to hearing about the next bingo!
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tillu
19 yrs ago
Well2
I am so sorry for your loss. I am really happy with your positive attitude. If Dr. says it fine then go for TTC and really praying to hear good news from you.
Lots of baby dust to you
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Well2
19 yrs ago
hello MM, firsttimemum, tillu, it should be clean. Cos we had an ultrasound on Saturday afternoon and we found NOTHING. And then the next day i started bleeding. That might be why Dr Ho is quite sure that we can go again right away! :-D
Hi Hkchoichoi, pls do ask your father for me. I am now a bit jealous of you having an OB/GYN father hahaha ;-P But glad that i've got to know you. Then you can pass on info haha :-D Tks alot XXX
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Well2
19 yrs ago
and one thing- you can't imagine how powerful of your words to me. I always feel much much happier after seeing all your replies. Whether when i am trying for one, or carrying one or having miscarriage. You guys have been so so so helpful. Am really feeling very touched :-D
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Well2 - Your are right, this forum is so supportive and makes a huge difference. It's good to be able to talk things through with other women who have experienced similar situations and have advice to share. This is particulary important for those of us who don't have our Mums or other mother figures to turn to.
Chin up and good luck Well2.
HKchoichoi - you are a veritable font, please tell your Dad thanks from me!
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for a bit of humor folks -
all those who are jealous of my having a father who is an OB/Gyn - yes - there are the positives - HOWEVER - when telling me to go for the emergency c-section, he said, "It's not a big deal - I do 7 or 8 a day sometimes." And I responded (a bit hysterically), "dO you do them on YOURSELF?" to which he replied, "Well - you sort of have a point - but really - it is not a big deal."
Then AFTER the c-section, less than 24 hours later, he was telling the nurse "Take her off the painkiller drip. She doesn't need it anymore. She's fine." Meanwhile, i'm flat on my back groaning in pain. He bends over to look at me and says, "In the US you'd be discharged in another dau, so get stronger. you're not an invalid." So much for the sympathetic father. Perhaps if my MOTHER were an ob/gyn i would have gotten more support. HAHAHAH. I will ask the necessary questions.
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Hi Hkchoichoi,
We don't "jealous" you now for having a OB/Gyn dad. That's a funny story ;-)
Yes, Well2, most of us have a hidden secret, a miscarriage in the past which we don't want to mention, it's one of the worst experience you'll have but it will soon pass by. God has a good reason for doing that, better than having a congenital defect baby. Take care.
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Hello Well2,
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss...but like everyone has said, it's mother nature telling you something. You're a really strong girl and you've been so positive about this whole thing. It's amazing! I've also heard that it's a lot easier to get pregnant after a miscarriage...my friend got pregnant two months later after a month's break.
I'm still in the 2WW and it should be over soon. Fingers crossed...
One more thing...this forum is excellent for support and encouragement. It's one of the first things I login to when I turn on my PC! It's great to know there's a little community of us working so hard at getting there. Keep at it girls!
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Dear Well2- very sorry to hear your confirmation but am happy for you that you can start trying right away. I will be expecting good news from you soon. Best of luck!! Go girl go!!
Sunny
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I'm so so sorry Well2...it seems like we've been part of the hopes for this baby for a long time.
We lost one last year, so I've been there too. It's a really sad time. So yes, you just try again knowing that this one wasn't meant to be. Some women/couples need some time for emotional healing before trying again, some can go right on.
I think the reason why most of the literature suggests waiting a cycle is to have a good LMP for dating if you are lucky enough to get pregnant again right away. But if Dr Ho says go for it, then go for it :-)
You know, I went to see Dr Ho for a consult last week, what a nice man (as well as a good doctor.) I had Lucy for our daughter's birth and then again for our miscarriage and as good a doctor as she was during our whole prenatal period and the delivery, she was very matter of fact about the miscarriage. No shoulder there to be sad on. Not that I wanted to cry in front of my doctor, but still. So maybe you are glad now that you chose Dr Ho, I can imagine he was kindly empathatic. Still so sorry you had to go through this....:-(
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Hi well2, I am very sorry to hear your sad news, I hope you and your husband are both feeling better soon.My thaughts are with the both of you.
regards,
White rabbit.
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Sorry I am side-tracking the main theme here with my question below. Sounds like Dr. Ho is a great doctor to have. Can anyone please let me know how much he charges for prenatal checkups and delivery? Where is his office? Also, is he an infertility specialist?
Your info much appreciated!
Sunny
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Well2
19 yrs ago
Tks everyone :-D
yes Dr Ho is a very nice man and good doctor.
He charges about $800 for consultation, $800 ultrasound. Office in Hing Wai bldg, Central (opposite Melbourne plaza). And i did cry in front of him and he did say things to keep me calm a bit :-)
I am moving on, i am moving on. But this whole miscarriage thing still hit me once in a while. I do cry a bit sometimes. Apart from my loving hubby, i don't wanna see anybody. I feel comfortable when talking with you guys, I feel safe when burying myself in hubbys arms. Anyway..
I am okay. My chin is up. We are ready to go again! :-)
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tillu
19 yrs ago
Hi Well2
Please don't cry and try to remain calm. Try to keep your self busy. Just think you are from those people who tried diligently and got pregnant. Just remeber every thing happens in life is always for good.
Hi Sunnyside , yes Dr. Ho is infertility specialist and one of the known Dr.. His charges are same as of DR. DOO or DR. Choy. He is very nice person and his assistant Kelly is very helpful. His no. is 28992293
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Hi well2
dont be sad dear. Sometimes things happen for a reason. dont be despair. You can try again since its proven you can conceive. I understand the loss feeling ur having but try not to let it affect you so much cuz it might affect your next TTC tryout as the mind controls the body. Just keep on trying. Dont give up ok.
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Thanks Well2 and Tillu for Dr. Ho's information. Well2 dearest - Pls see also the other thread (one you created earlier) for my upmost support.
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Well2,
My thoughts are with you!! I had a m/c at 8wks over the Christmas holidays (we told close family for their 'present') and were quite gutted as it was the 2nd one for me, a 'blighted ovum.' But, as everyone so far has responded, it is for a reason. It is still quite new for you so just roll with your feelings. It still hits me out of the blue and it has been over 2 months since it happened. Finally got my first period (I had a D&C), and will wait another 2 (doctor's orders) for my cycle to get back on track before trying again.
Now it is easy to be logical about it, but emotionally it does hit you, so prepare to be thrown for a loop. Remember, everyone responds differently to loss! I cried and cried, but family and friends were such a support system for my husband & I. Just focus on staying healthy and really talk to your hubby about it; I think it's just as hard on them b/c they can't do anything for you except support you & give you lots of love!
Best of luck to you...and like me, I now know that I can get pregnant!!! Fingers crossed and take care...
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Well2
talked to my father - he told me it's a common misconception that people get pregnant more easily after a miscarriage - he said medically no reason why - except that people after a miscarriage probably try harder - and so they get pregnant more easily. he told me to assure you that a miscarriage is a good thing - and that you are now assured that everything is working well - and that you should have no problems conceiving once again.
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Well2
19 yrs ago
Dani R, i am really sorry for your loss. Hope you feel better soon. Take good care and fingers crossed for each other :-)
Effiruz, HKChoichoi and father, thanks again.
Before the miscarriage happened, i was thinking i might have problems conceiving. But now those worries have gone away. I feel less stressful about TTC :-D
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Well2
19 yrs ago
By the way, my temp finally dropped today. I've been waiting for it to happen since Saturday. Don't ask me why hahah i really don't know!
Does anybody know why i don't need a D/C? Seems like everyone had it after a m/c?!?!?
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Well23 it seems that ur right. You probably ovulate anytime within 18th - 24th of each mth.
hve u try to use OPK to test? if confirm, you can ML straightaway.good luck
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I also didn't have D and C - if your miscarriage is "clean" then you don't need one.
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Well2
19 yrs ago
:-D :-D :-D :-D
Servey done by babycenter
Q: How long did it take you to get pregnant again after your loss?
We got pregnant
the next month 12%
2 to 3 months 27%
4 to 5 months 15%
6 to 7 months 11%
8 to 9 months 5%
10 to 11 months 6%
more than one year 13%
more than two years 12%
Not bad, huh? :-D
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Well2- I can understand why one's BBT doesn't drop straight away as there were still hormone in your system that was keeping BBT up.
D&C is to clear the residual of the m/s. I think the earlier one's m/s is, the less "bits" to be rejected from your system. So your body can do a good job to self-clean for you. It's good you don't have to go for a D&C.
Focus on the challenge of getting "up the duff" again, I look forward to hearing your good news soon!
HKchoichoi- I am surprised to know that you had a m/s too before. This forum made me realise just how common m/s is. Fingers crossed I have a keeper :) Nearly at the end of my 1st trimester now, hurray!!
Sunny
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Well2, thanks for your kind words, it really does help to know that it isn't only happening to you! Those percentages are very encouraging, we'll both keep thinking positive!
I had a D&C after a bad experience. We found out at our 8 week ultrasound about the 'empty sac'and were given some choices. We could either let the m/c happen naturally, get a D&C, or take a medication which would begin the onset of m/c. I took the medication (a vag. suppistory) and had a bad reaction. I was rushed into ER and after being jabbed 6 times for a drip (was severely dehydrated and those nurses couldn't find a vein!!!), they took me up for a D&C. This happened in the States.
Needless to say, I was very relieved to stop the pain and it actually brought closure for me. The procedure was very fast (although I was under) and recovery time was quick and was released from hospital that evening. It just depends on what your doctor says, how far along you were and how your body reacts.
So, now it's time to let your mind and body heal, and nature will 'take its course.' This message board is wonderful. Good luck to you Well2, and to all the soon-to-be moms, I always look forward to reading about your stories and helpful information!
:)
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addis
19 yrs ago
well2 and Dani R, I really am sorry for your loss - can feel the pain as I too have been through that. My first pregnancy ended at about 8 weeks (the baby stopped growing). At the time the only pluses as I could see were (1) it was a spontaneous abortion and I did not have to go through a D&C and (2) the comfort in knowing that there was nothing wrong with our fertility. Anyway, after the initial sadness of losing the little one, I was worried as to when the next pregnancy would happen and when it did (in the same month that I got off medication for a stomach disorder and we started 'trying') I was paranoid that I would begin spotting (would even have nightmares about it) till I got to the 20th week (I learned to relax after that). Anyway, I now have a 15 month old and am currently in the 6th month of my third pregnancy (this time the worry is that I am not gaining enough weight. My DH does not call me a worrywart for nothing!!). So, hang in there and don't get worked up about it. You WILL get pregnant and be able to carry the pregnancy to term. Good luck to you ladies!
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