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mrsl
19 yrs ago
I suspect the answer to this question is 'Go to your Obstetrician', but I hate being in a waiting room full of happily pregnant women when I am on miscarriage no. 4. The other 3 happened at different stages (7 weeks naturally and 7/11 weeks by D&C). So, in this case (4.5 weeks) I am letting it happen naturally and would have expected the bleeding to have stopped by now. It has been almost a month. I had 1 week of relatively heavy bleeding, which tailed off, just when I thought it was over it started again, this time for almost 3 more weeks.
I would be grateful if any of you out there could share your experiences. And yes, I will drag myself to the doctor's office if it goes on and on.
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bw
19 yrs ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've had two m/c one at 5.5 weeks and the other at 9 weeks. Both cases happened naturally and the bleeding stopped after 5 days. Like a normal menstrual cycle, except that bleeding was much heavier than normal, I passed bluish-purple clots and had cramping pains.
I don't know if it's normal to have bleeding for a month, it's hard I know to go to the doctor's office. Maybe you could just call him/her and talk to him/her before you go there ?
Take care of yourself. I'm praying for you.
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mrsl
19 yrs ago
Thanks bw, that was my gut feel. Calling is a good idea. It's not that I am not happy for those who are having successful pregnancies, but am getting sick of going through the same drill over and over again while everyone else compares notes on planned pain relief etc.
Thanks for your response and kind thoughts.
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mrsl gosh what a experience you've been thru, i'm sorry i can't really help my missed pregnancy ended in a D&C. What i do suggest is like bw call the Dr's but tell them how your feeling and ask if you could come a a quiet time so you don't have to sit in the waiting room or make an appointment and sit in a near by cafe and ask them to call you when your Dr is ready for you so you could go straight in. My thoughts are with you and i have a friend who i met thru this forum who has been going thru similar experiences as you but stopped referring to these threads as she didn't thik there was anyone is her situation i might let her know about you would you be up to commumicating with her thru email? Maybe you could offer each other some support. All the best to you and hubby
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mrsl
19 yrs ago
Absolutely! Thanks Perthites.
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Hi Mrs,
I know no words can ease the pain of a MC. But just to let you know that about my friend, she had MC 5 times!!! She doesn't have problem getting preggy, the problem is how to hold it. Doctors can't give her an explanation why it always happens, so she research in the internet and found out about some women take aspirin, next time she got preggy, she took it with her doctor's approval, she got lucky and now has two cute boys.
I'm sure your time to be a mother will come. It's not just the right time at the moment. Don't lose hope, never give up. Good luck! Take care.
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I can relate to your feelings very well: I also had 4 miscarriages (all around the 8/9 weeks). But, do you know what, as hard as it is, do not give up on your dream to became a mother: after all these miscarriages I now have a healthy 2-year-old girl! The doctors could never figure out why they occurred since I had no complications with my first pregnancy (I also have a 11-year-old daughter) and has always been healthy. Looking back, I wonder how come I had the strength to go through so much pain, but it all made me stronger and more appreciative of what really matters in life.
Take good care of you, respect your feelings, share them with the ones you trust, cry, be depressed, be sad ... but, do not give up!! My sister had 4 IVFs until she had her triplets! It is also a very stressful process, but if she had given up ... I know a lot of friends that went through the same process: you are not the only one out there, believe me!! Make an appointment, check what is going on with you (take care of you!), the "happy" pregnant women are just going to be inspiration for you to keep going. One more thing, I was 38 years-old when I had my 2 year-old baby!!! Against all odds, right?! There are things bigger than us in this life!!!
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mrsl
19 yrs ago
Thanks all. I am actually much luckier than many women. I have 2 perfect children, who allow me to retain some perspective. I also have no problem getting pregnant, just blike the lady above, have difficulty staying that way. I have many friends who have gone through multiple rounds of IVF and either never have any success or get all excited and then miscarry. So life could certainly be worse!
In a sad sort of way, the more failures you have, the easier it becomes to deal with them. If you try to minimise your expectations/excitement then you control your grief/disappointment too. Cannot avoid some degree of upset though.
I have finally got my brain in gear and called the doctors' office. Thanks to you all for injecting some sanity (and sympathy) into my day!
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mrsl
19 yrs ago
Thank you NewHK. OV, I am sure that your post was well meant. I can assure you though, that once you hit your sixth pregnancy (successful or otherwise), you can pretty much write a book on potential causes on miscarriage and avoid every possible causes, substantiated or not.
Honeypie's advice is correct, that aspirin once taken under medical advice can make a difference.
Anyway, been to doctors and all being sorted. Thanks again for good thoughts and good advice.
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ears
19 yrs ago
Apparently papayas and aubergines can cause miscarriages. I was told by my western doctor.
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