Posted by
effiruz
19 yrs ago
hi all
need some advice here. i am advice by my gynae to stop having sex during my 1st 3mths. Im on the 9weeks now. But u know we are humans after all, and i do have desire sometimes. Can we resort to "Do-It-Yourself" method? Does anybody know whether will it endanger the pregnancy?
I dont dare to ask my gynae..shy lah!
help me..
thanks
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From what I've been reading, sex during the first few months is healty for both you and your partner. But I've also read that it can vary based on the individual, (problems with past pregnancies etc.)
Regarding the 'do-it-yourself' method, I justify it by saying it helps to develop my KEIGEL muscles! If sex is a problem, that should be an acceptable alternative. At least for your sake I hope so!!!!
LOL - enjoy!
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No problem either with sex during the first trimester, or with masturbation. Go for it.
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Why don't you ask your gynie exactly why she suggests you don't have sex. She might say it's only beacuse she's worried about infection or she might say it's to do with orgsams and the muscles used. If she says this then ask about the difference between that and doing your keigel muscles. We were also adviced not to have sex during the first 14weeks due to infectionn even though i'm married and the Dr thought it would be ok we had fertility treatment so didn't want to risk it. She also told me not to go swimming for the same reason.
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had zero desire to do anything as i was too sick in my 1st tri. my gynae told me (without me asking) that sex was ok during pregnancy. is there any medical reason why your doc has given you this advice?
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No sex for the first trimester? Would understand if it was an IVF baby or an at-risk pregnancy.
Sounds rather strange for a normal pregnancy though. Bearing in mind that I didn't know I was preggers until I was 7 weeks - I carried on playing rugby until I found out. Needless to say I stopped as soon as I found out but the bubs has suffered no ill-effect from that.
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bw
19 yrs ago
I think if your doctor has specifically asked you not to have sex then only he/she can tell you what's ok. I was at high risk for miscarriage and so was advised against it (specifically deep penetration) in the first trimester. I made sure I knew exactly what he was advising me against. Not that I wanted to - being very sick in the first four months !
Don't feel shy and ask your doc for specifics. Now i'm in my second trimester and I asked the doc again, he said it's ok now.
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Western and Chinese advice differs on this subject.
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Hi all
thanks for ur kind reply. im not shy to ask the doc abt sex but abt masturbation im holding it back a little. :)
well what happen is i am on metformin to regulate my hormones as the doc found out that im not actually ovulating on certain mths. plus my uterus lining is thin during the period im on consultation with the gynae. so i was given some pills to strengthen the uterus as well as to ovulate. so when i finally got pregnant (w/o us expecting it), he advice us to stop having sex during this critical period - 1st 3 mths. Just to play safe i guess cuz i was trying for a baby for nearly a year. and also certain fruits that i have to avoid like papaya, pineapple, watermelon..all those cooling stuffs. i cant even do heavy housework. As this is my 1st pregnancy it is understandable that i need to really take good care of it.
during my first few checkups, i complaint to the doc that im having cramps every now and then. When he did thorough check, found out there are blood clots. he told me that if these blood clot increase in size, possibility of miscarriage is there. So thats why i cant walk too much or else here comes the tension in my stomach!
thank god the last check up i did, the blood clot already minimize. for now i just cant wait for my 1st trimester
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if that's what your doc said, i would bite the bullet and abstain from sex for the 1st tri....you'll have many more chances to have fun when the coast is clear! :)
but for masturbation, you should check with your doc...sounds like his/her concern is with excessive penetration that can potentially cause damage (JUST MY THOUGHTS, I'M NO MEDICAL EXPERT). but for masturbation, if it's an external thing and won't cause internal trauma, maybe not too bad?
just ask your doc lah...he/she will be looking up your private bits during pregnancy and delivery, no secrets there so ask away! :)
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Hmmm not too sure about the 'cooling' foods to though. I know that local tradition and old-wives tales tell you to avoid those foods but am a little perturbed that your doctor advised against them.
agree though, avoid sex for now until you have passed the danger point.
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How old are you if you don't mind me asking?
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TC
19 yrs ago
I'm no doctor but in your described circumstances I'm still having trouble understanding what dangers could be posed by GENTLE vaginal intercourse. Nevertheless, if you trust your doctor then go with what he/she says. Luckily for us (baby is 6 weeks old) it was sex right up to the night before birth.
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