Two Miscarriages?

Dear All


I have very recently had my second miscarriage. My husband and I haven't got any children. and are hoping that we will eventually be sucessful.


I am feeling increibly hollow and alone. Is there anyone else who has been through mulitple miscarriages then ended up being sucessful? We have just had some chromo tests done so I am hoping that they come back ok.


thanks

Dear POD,


I am so sorry to hear about what you've been through. I have had 4 m/cs but have 2 healthy children (with a 3rd due in a few months, fingers crossed). Apparently, I have just had repeated bad luck. Wait for the test results and try again when your doctor gives you the green light.


Good luck with the results and hopefully you've experienced your last loss.


Take care.

I also had two miscarriages. Got tested and they found out that i have overactive natural killer cells - they attack the fetus thinking it's a foreign matter in my body.


Doctor put me on steroids to reduce my immune system and then we managed to get and stay pregnant.


Have a baby girl and another baby on the way.

Oh POD i totally sympathise.

I had a miscarriage, fell pregnant again this time it was an ectopic (without me realising it was an ectopic).

Fell pregnant again, have a now wonderful 6 year old, miscarried again, fell pregnant and produced an equally wonderful 4 year old and then had the most awful miscarriage during SARS. So bad in fact that my local maternity hospital in UK refused to treat me as they assumed that becuase i was from HK and had been suffering from pneumonia, i had SARS (this was sorted out with lawyers after).

Anyway, bled horribly for 3 weeks and upon landing in HK was rushed to the Matilda where i was operated on, with a 106 fever, and was told that i had a septic miscarriage meaning i had everything still in and had formed an absess. Apparently very lucky absess had not burst on flight otherwise i wouldn't be typing this now.

I had the tests and they found nothing wrong, the only thing my marvelouslly understanding and empathetic doctor could say was 'maybe i just couldn't carry boys'.

Each time i was pregnant i was give progesterone jabs and it seemed to do the job. Good luck, and i'm here if you need me. x

Thank-you for your kind words of encouragement and hope. Without sounding like I wish bad things on people, I am glad that I’m not the only one (if that makes sense!). The last couple of days have been better as I've started to sleep better. My mind keeps fluctuating from worrying about the results of our tests to .... to be honest I don't know.


I now have to try and use your words to help me move on and feel positive about the future.


x

POD - it's not easy and don't deny yourself time to cry, it's natural and very important. I still have times, 6 years on, when i have a little cry at the loss, i even remember when there due dates were.


Also, talk to your partner, mine would just sit and listen and i got upset that he wasn't upset (he later told me that if i had seen him upset i would have been worse which was so true).


People will say 'it happened for a reason' and you'll want to slap them because the first miscarriage fair enough, but not the second time. Just remember that maybe these people haven't been what you have been through and are just trying to be supportive.


And lastly, god i talk, talk about it with your girlfriends, you'll be surprised how many others it has happened to and also if it does happen to them (god forbid) they'll use you as a shoulder to cry on beacuse you'll understand their feelings.


Not finished yet - and when you do decide you're ready to try again, relax and when you find yourself pregnant don't stress just think positive thoughts and carry on with everything as normal, running to catch the bus or jumping up and down won't cause you to miscarriage.


And if the natural way (and i mean that in the nicest way) doesn't work out, then there's a little one out there calling your name just wanting to be loved by you.


Again, good luck and thinking of you.