Miscarriage - what to eat to take back strength

I just lost my first grand-child, we are all so miserable. My daughter-in-law keeps blaming herself. The doctor said her Ovary Low. We sent her to the Philippines as her parents is there so she could be well-taken care of. She is crying from yesterday until now. She is still bleeding and all she can cry out loud is my baby is coming out, the blood is my baby (3 months)... We are comforting her... I know Chinese would boil some Pot rice with some ingredients for after pregnancy. But I cant fly there so is there any suggestion on what she can eat/drink in order regain her strength like Brand essence of chicken??


Please kindly advise this First time to be grandmother. thank you

Hi Sampaguita,


I am sorry about your loss and I sympathise with how you and your daughter-in-law are feeling (there is a thread on this site where I talk about my miscarriage in Feb of this year). The bleeding will stop soon hopefully, I hope that she has a good doctor to support her.


I'm not sure if there are foods that your daughter in law should eat to help her gain strength, I think a lot of the recommendations are based around old wives tales. Having said that I followed some recommendations that included organic raspberry leaf tea (Bumps to Babes in the Pedder Building have this), yams (not sure how these help, someone recommended them though) and basically just a healthy diet full of greens - I eat / ate a lot of spinach.


Here's an article that might help re: foods:

http://pregnancysuccesscoachblog.blogspot.com/2008/07/pregnancy-after-miscarriage.html


Your daughter-in-law needs time to heal pyschologically as well as physically. If she wants to talk and cry - let her, if she doesn't then that's ok too. Give her lots of tender loving care etc. eventually she (as well as the rest of the family) will come to terms with this loss and although you won't forget you will be able to look forward.


Take care - I promise it will get easier, you all just need time.

Thank you so much Gabriella, I will look it out and send them to her by Speedpost.

I kept thinking about the baby, the more when I hear Connie Talbot's voice, ride a bus and see babies..... I didnt know Grandmother would feel so much too.

I think it's perfectly normal for you as the Grandmother to be feeling this way - my mother and my mother-in-law were the same. It's about the loss of what might have been - the grandchild you were hoping for and all the things that come with that. You should allow yourself time to grieve and perhaps do something that will give you some peace. I come from a Catholic background - so sitting quietly in a church helped give me some solace and I was able to eventually let go.


Similarly to your daughter-in-law you need time to come to terms with this. Everyone is different when it comes to loss - I didn't handle myself very well the second time it happened (blocked out everyone, started drinking etc, and confided in people on this forum only) , it took about a month or so for me to start to feel normal again and I gradually I started to feel stronger. Others are more resilient and some are not - take whatever time you need and do whatever you need to do to find some peace right now.



I can tell you from experience things will get easier and the family will heal given time.

Thank you Gabriella for your comfort and strong emotional support, I really need it so much. I have bought some milk for pregnant woman, do you think she can still drink it for regaining strength purposes.


Thank you.