How and when to try to conceive?

Hi to all ladies out there.


I am close to 30 and want a child. I had PCOS in my early age and in between I had to be on pills to regulate my periods. I went off the pills 2 years ago and never ever took any kind of pills. My periods were regular at times but sometimes I miss them for more than 2 months. I had my periods in Jan and then in April. Luckily I had it again in May after around 40 days.


I do not know between my periods when I am actually ovulating. I know we get kits out there to check that, but with my unstable period, I can probably waste $200+ every month and not being able to detect the right days of my ovulation. They are expensive kits and i probably dont want to waste so much money on that.


My questions is, how do I know the right dates? Any signs of ovulation such as discharge etc?


We do not use any precautions. I only knew that I wasnt supposed to be washing up or walking around after having intercourse so I tried to sleep overnight. I still missed the right dates. I was too late by then.


Please i need some advice, I badly want a baby although my husband doesnt seem to want one yet but he doesnt take any precautions either.



Also, I started running recently because doctors recommended exercise so that I can cure my PCOS. Will that affect my chances of conceiving?


Can anyone give me some guidiance?


Thank you.

profused, I would suggest that you buy this book: Taking Charge of your Fertility by Toni Weschler. I purchased mine from Page One in Kowloon Tong.


This is by far the best book I've ever read about how the female body works when trying to get pregnant. It teaches you how to read your discharge, how to "feel" your cervix and how to take your temperatures to determine your ovulation. It also has answers to ALL the questions you've been wanting to know.


OPKs are often not the best for those suffering from PCOS. If you want to use

OPKs, I think they have digital ones now which will work out cheaper for you. I also used BBT - Basal Body Thermometer which can be purchased from selected pharmacies - Mannings/Watsons. You can also download some charts off the internet to input your daily temperature. Doctors find these charts useful to determine your fertility history. I find CM and cervical positioning are great indicators as well. This is where reading the above book will help.


Good luck.

Fertility friend. com is a tool that I use to chart my temp.. its detects ovulation straight after it has happened so it can help toward you working out a pattern


Also the really best thing I have found is checking my discharge.. When you have the sticky / egg white discharge appearing this is a sign to try... this is the fertile discharge that will carry the sperm up to the eggs.... Once you see that on tissue then its a good time to try... It normally comes a couple of days before ovulation


Hope that helps


Also lifted this from FF.com for you


When does Ovulation take place?


Ovulation takes place, on average, about two weeks before your period, though it can vary from 10-16 days before the onset of menstruation depending on the length of your luteal phase. During an "average" 28 day cycle, ovulation is usually expected to take place between cycle days 13-15. Based on this guideline, many women are taught to expect ovulation around day 14 of their menstrual cycle. Many women, however, do not have average cycles and even those who usually do may see irregularities from time to time.


A typical menstrual cycle may be anywhere from 21 to 35 days according to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine. Some women even notice cycles that are shorter or longer than this. Ovulation, then, may occur much earlier or later than typical guidelines suggest. For example, ovulation may occur on cycle day 23 during a cycle that is 35 days long for a woman with a 12 day luteal phase while ovulation may occur on cycle day 10 for a woman with a 24 day cycle and a 14 day luteal phase length. This variation among women and from cycle to cycle means that there is really no simple "one-size-fits-all" mathematical formula to calculate your ovulation date without observing your fertility signs. However, it is possible to learn how to identify your own ovulation date and fertile signs by examining your fertility signals.

Thank you all, that was useful. So how about jogging while trying to conceive? Does that affect anyway?

"Please i need some advice, I badly want a baby although my husband doesnt seem to want one yet but he doesnt take any precautions either."


i think you have something else you should really spend time on...

Cookie, and that is?


I know my husband isnt entirely ready but he wouldnt feel burdened or sad if I have one.

well, that's not how i perceived your initial statement, but good if you are already in the clear with him