selecting child for adoption

Every Country has different stipulations and rules. Here in HK, they do not say be prepared to accept a child different than what you said on tbeh paperwork. Also, you will spend a few weeks getting to know the child to be there is a connection. You have 6 months to change your mind.

I think this forum is the wrong place for you to be getting this kind of information.


Each country has its own adoption laws - in Canada each province has its own laws - same for each state in the US. Since you have not stated the country from which you are adopting, nothing said here can be very pertinent to your question.


I suggest that you contact the government or an adoption agency of the country from which you are adopting to get the correct information to your question.


That said, it seems to me that if you are willing to travel to the country where the child resides, you would be able to get more information and probably meet the child.


In adoption, you absolutely have the right to say no, either at matching or after meeting the child. In some countries there is a waiting period before the adoption is finalized (eg. HK).


We've had two happy adoptions from HK - and said no to two others!


Good luck!

hi expat

as aemom pointed out, i don't think this forum can provide you with the answers you are looking for.

if you are adopting in canada, try a website like ivfconnections.com where they have a separate area called alternative parenting routes, and a sub area called adoption. there are people there adoption from us, canada, and international adoptions. i am sure someone there is adopting from the country you are adopting from and could link you with support groups.


also, you might want to contact the agency you are working with and ask them for support groups, or do an yahoo search for support groups. there are many out there and it is likely someone has had the same questions you have and the answers are out there. a google search will also likely provide many answers.



good luck and i hope your wait is very short.


abn