Am I gay or is she?

Despite the controversy, and the large number of people who are unwilling to accept that in Her Infinite Wisdom God likes diversity and created homosexuals as they are, there is a growing body of scientific evidence that shows homosexuality is genetic. The concept of the "latent homosexual" the person who suddenly discovers in mid-life that he or she is gay, was purely an attempt by psychologists to explain how someone could be married, even have children and then suddenly leave his/her family to live with someone of the same sex. This of course ignored the extreme societal pressure to conform.


If either you or your wife were homosexual, you would have known it before now. I don't think I've ever met a gay male who wasn't aware from the onset of puberty, if not earlier, that he preferred men. Guess I've never asked my lesbian friends, but I'm pretty sure it's the same for them. Enjoying being in the presence of someone of your own sex, even having what you called an "emotional involvement" doesn't make you gay. It's the physical attraction that makes you gay. You've been married 10 years? Happily? I'm assuming that means you have and enjoy sex with each other? You might be bi-sexual, but it sounds more to me like you're both just people who are not only physically comfortable being around people of your own gender, but who aren't afraid to admit that that includes being emotionally comfortable with them . . and that's healthy my friend.

i'm with Roxy Gal and IMNRG. i also agree with Roxy Gal that women are so much more interesting and beautiful to look at than men. i am straight but if given a choice i prefer to look at erotic images of women than of men. i can honestly say i have never been remotely aroused by any male dancers/strippers at any of the hen parties i have been to - there is just something so comical about a naked man writhing and jumping around. :-D rofl! (one of the best bachelorette parties i've been to was when we discovered the stripper was musically talented - we gave him back his clothes and had him play the piano and sing for us instead)


i like men. a lot, a lot, a LOT! and i've never been with a woman. :-) but if you held a gun to my head and said i HAD to sleep with a woman, well i could name a couple that it wouldn't kill me to try. ;-) hmmm, maybe once before i die...


consider yourself and your wife lucky Epsteine - you're in a long and happy marriage, with a possibly wider-than-usual sexual scope ahead of you both :-)

I have to agree with VOR. Women are lovely to look at, soft to the touch and more sexy than men when nekid.


I can drink beer like the best of men, belch and enjoy some of the more boyish things in life. Some of my best mates are men and I love being *one of the guys*. I am more comfy in trousers and jeans than skirts and dresses. That said, I do clean up well in girlie gear if I want to and my hubby seems to like the feminine side of me.


Just because I enjoy boyish things and don't do the girlie dress up game does not make me think I am gay. I love men...A LOT...one in particular.


I think you should celebrate that you and your wife are comfy together doing various things rather than making you think you may be gay.

well Epsteine i think you have given us more clues as to your sexuality. i think you are right about yourself.


i get out enough, thanks very much, and i don't read cosmopolitan or marie claire unless stuck at the dentist's. i much prefer appreciating real men in real life as opposed to them prancing about in a thong - but hey, whatever floats your boat.