Question for the ladies

Would it upset you if a very presentable young man saw you in a bar or coffee shop and offered to buy you a drink/coffee?


Always wondered, how does it happen so easily in the movies? lol

wow, edison, why would a lady be upset if one fine gentleman is offering to buy her a drink, probably a little wary of what would be added to the drink.. ha-ha i am kidding.


Well, it is easy in the movie because it is a make believe world..

It seems to happen every 2nd or 3rd time I'm out with my girlfriends. Most times the drink comes to me from the barman/waiter with the advice that it was from 'the gentleman over there', which is safe and acceptable and quite flattering. Most times it leads to conversation, never to more as I have a husband! One time a guy brought a drink over and I politely declined for safety reasons, so he said fair enough, drank it himself and bought me a fresh one! Once I had a rather annoyed man act like I was calling him a rapist and go on that women don't appreciate chivalry, etc but hey, better safe than sorry!


The danger is when you let your guard down. You let a guy buy you one drink, have a chat....he seems nice, you need to go to the ladies room, he says he'll get you a fresh drink while you're there, you've had a drink or 2, your judgement is a little off....that's when the predators close their net so we ladies have to be careful!


And it's very poor form girls, to let a guy keep buying you drinks when you have no intention whatsoever of anything else. I'm not saying that having a drink bought for you is a ticket to your pants, but if you have a significant other, make that point slip into conversation early enough. I always have my wedding ring on and make some mention of my husband and that gives the hint most of the time and the conversation never has to get uncomfortable.

in a coffee shop? yes very disturbing, start a chat if you want but don't start with "can I buy you a drink?" I would hightail it no matter how presentable you were


in a bar? well...the implication is that you would stay for the duration of that drink right? I even feel a bit trapped by that. For a girl to like you she needs to be relaxed.


a great tactic from "The Game" is to approach a group of girls and ask their advice eg " You girls look quite fashionable, can I ask your advice..I have to go shopping with my brother tomorrow, he wants to buy a present for his new gf and he has about $xxxx. He thinks he should buy a xxxx, I don't know if that is a good idea blah blah...."


or "I only have a few minutes......"


both styles are non threatening