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dazed
18 yrs ago
What does it mean when a guy keeps wanting you to call him, even though you've already made the first call? This guy's emails are always affectionate, even ardent, but he never calls, just hints that I should call him (e.g. "call me if you need a hug" etc). Hate these calling games...
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Sounds sort effiminate to me.
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dazed
18 yrs ago
Thanks all.
If he's not that interested, why does he say all these sweet things in the emails, encouraging me to contact him?
flashback: I dunno, what DOES it tell you when a man's trying to get you to drive the relationship? Insecurity? Sorry if it's a dumb question--not too experienced in this game.
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F100
18 yrs ago
if he won't even take the trouble of calling you, i think he is sending a strong message that he isn't willing to do very much for you in the future as well.
so expect "nada" from this guy.
i really think this guy "really isn't into you."
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dazed
18 yrs ago
Hey thanks flashback, that's what I needed to hear. I thought it might be coz he wasn't sure I was interested in him so needed me to demonstrate it by calling him (again). But you're right, we haven't done anything together since meeting. He's just showered me with romantic compliments and charm--via email, for weeks!--feeding MY ego actually. And you're right again, if it's draining now, what'll it be like if we really start dating?! Thanks for a good cold shower to douse the wishful thinking! It'll be hard to forget him though...
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I agree with Flashback. It does not mean she/we are bitter either. Just more matter of fact about how we see things after a while.
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dazed
18 yrs ago
Well I just got another sweet email, now implying he's willing to meet ("I'm here for you if you need company"). Before your advice I would've suggested meeting for lunch or sthg. Now I'm not sure I should even reply to him. His emails did cheer me up when I was low, but don't want to be strung along by someone possibly with multiple women in play, like flashback said. Aaagh...what to do???
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dazed
18 yrs ago
Actually I met him a few times but in a group, and he was very upfront about his interest in me then. But no, he's never asked me out on a real date, just keeps offering to come out to where I live (if I call him of course!) And no, I don't know much about him, was hoping to get to know him better, but... The consensus seems to be: don't bother. OK girls, to hell with him. Thanks for the hard-headed advice. Men, I'll never understand them!
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Men play these 'call me' games because women are stupid enough to fall for it.
I mean, think about it. It is much easier for a woman to get laid than it is for a man. We should be making these men feel like they're lucky we even looked at them, not like they're our gods!
When I was dating, I'd make sure I had a few guys on the go. It keeps you busy and stops your mind focusing on and day dreaming about this one special guy, until HE asks YOU to be exclusive.
C'mon ladies, what ever happened to the patronising concept of girl power?
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nom
16 yrs ago
he is not into you and should stop calling him.
is he mute.
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Yes, I do agree with beancurd *_* ...
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maxis
16 yrs ago
as this thread started 510 days ago, looks like didn't call and she has moved on.
btw he sounds like an insecure mummy's boy and she (and the rest of you) are better off without him.
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