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Ginger80
13 yrs ago
Some 5 star hotel in china they offer a massage from their SPA. They can send a Lady to do the massage in the guest room till late. My husband done this many times co'z during his buss. trip he finished late so the only schedule he has for the room massage is 11 till 1 am in the morning.. I told him my side I dont really feel comfortable about this and he got annoyed by me saying that is the only time he can relax from his stressful job.. any suggestion?
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Well, massages in Chinese hotels are notorious for offering happy endings.
Having said that, it all depends on your husband and you. If he wants to cheat he will find a way regardless of circumstances. If he is faithful to the letter he is just getting a massage.
Have a frank discussion. Not just "I don't feel comfortable" but "are you getting a happy ending?"
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have a frankk discussion is the only option i guess. although an annoying answer to shut you down instead of comforting you doesnt sound like an innocent case. but it also depends on how you bring it up, if you wasnt being too negative, may be he is really stressed out from work? and found you not being very considerate to him?
i am not sure if i am right about this, i assume if they are the 5 star hotels, they will only provide decent services? and they even prevent indecent business going on?
hope you get some healthy communications with him and work from there.
cheers
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Ginger, you have reason to be suspicious. His annoyance is a red flag. These are notorious for a reason. Plenty of other ways to relax.
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@phyl. "Indecent" services are available at five star hotels too.
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@ Ginger80:
Darling, my husband and I went to one of the best 5 star hotels in the south of China. My husband wanted a massage in the evening (11:00PM) as he overstretched his back. I dropped him off at the spa, and went back to the room.
Within 5 minutes he came running down, a hooker literally jumped on top of him as soon as I left the room...
Just saying lady! Seriously, I think your gut is telling you something! Don't know any man who wants a massage that late without a happy ending!...
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F100
13 yrs ago
Ask him to request for a male masseuse.
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Jobin. Lol. It's refreshing to come across an unreonstructed male view from time to time. Yes, what business is it of these wives anyway - just as long as we make the mortgage payments?
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My husband loves going for massages, finds it very relaxing, I'm not that into it coz I always get bruises. Anyway, he would go up to China to those massage places. He'd let me know beforehand then go up there alone. It's fine with me maybe coz I trust him. I don't know about your husband, but my advice would be that you go up there with him a few times and you can both do the massage in the hotel room. Maybe once you see how it is, you'll feel more relaxed about it?
I don't know if you'll agree, but my way of keeping my relationship is that when you "suspect" something, don't go an accuse him of it until you gather enough evidence. If you feel uncomfortable about his massages, you can talk to him and tell him how you feel, but not accuse him. I find this always helps keeping the arguments to the minimal.
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How do people 'relax' after a stressful day on a business trip to Sydney?
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Most likely he is at least getting a happy ending if not sex, I don't even know any places in China where a single guy would be offered a massage without a little extra. The thing you need to deal with is WHY he is doing this and what you are going to do about it when he admits it (that's what you want, right?). If he's the kind of guy that does this then it's not going to change, but on the bright side at least this means he probably isn't having an affair (but if you can't solve the "why" problem but you somehow prevent him doing this, then he probably will. Not saying it's right but that's what normally happens).
A lot of women tend to want a perfect husband that never cheats and also is paid enough that they have a maid and the wife doesn't need to work. Well, that's rare, especially in Asia (if you don't count the guys that SAY they have these qualities but in reality are full of sh!t). Most likely you are going to get one who has money but cheats to some extent, e.g. happy ending massages AT LEAST, OR one who doesn't earn enough so you still have to work but he doesn't cheat. Compare that to (average?) guys who don't have much money and also cheat.
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How do people 'relax' after a stressful day on a business trip to Sydney?
... GO TO A CHINESE MASSAGE JOINT ...
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