What do you look for in a partner?



ORIGINAL POST
Posted by Vulvic 19 yrs ago
Funnily enough I am still in touch with my high school b/f. We get on famously.


Have never thought to list the qualities I look for in a bloke - there is no list as such. A sense of humour is important although I am not allowed to date Americans. They find me too abrasive, I find them dull.


Reasonable amount of intelligence, ability to drink me under the table, kind to animals and children, able to iron his own shirts, can match socks to shoes, ditto shoes to suit, clean fingernails, a reasonable collection of porn (never trust a man that tells you he has no porn) and a sport of some kind (although he doesn't have to be particularly good at it.)

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COMMENTS
Vulvic 19 yrs ago
Yes as do women. However, what people find attractive varies from person to person. I have dated some men that my brother still laughs about to this day - to me they were all very attractive men.

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Vulvic 19 yrs ago
Strangely a pattern has started to emerge over the last few years - the b/fs seem to have less and less hair. The last one was completely bald, lol.

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Vulvic 19 yrs ago
You actually had a spreadsheet? That really is a bit extreme.


To be honest I have never sat down and analysed my past relationships and partners - I prefer to wipe the slate clean and start again. To my knowledge all my partners were different from each other with different qualities that made them special. Would never dream of comparing them with each other.

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iveniv 19 yrs ago
Agreed with Vulvic for starting each relationship with a clean slate. But for me, not having enough number of relationships to mark a statistically significant list, would have to go for instinct, and sadly, for that, it usually started with looks.....


of course i know, and understand, personality lasts longer, and probably more reliable, than looks.


Smart guy with some Sense of Humor would be appealing....and not being a jerk also is a big plus....(this one put most male of the list, eh?) :P

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space-dust 19 yrs ago
I am crap, i always go for looks in men. But other than looks, animal lover is a must then comes to sense of humour.... Money is never on my list of criteria though..



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tia 19 yrs ago
Some men would list looks first, just as some women would.



Me, I have a thing for bald men. Don't ask..but it works for me. Not that I would turn down a guy with hair, but bald is beautiful, in my opinion.


I like smarts, oodles of intelligence, wit and dry humour, a sharp mind, good conversationalist, varied hobbies and interests, likes food, movies and travel.


Lookswise...well, if you knew any of the men I have dating or the one I am currently dating, it is fairly obvious that looks are not the main thing for me.


I want someone I can relate to, talk to and be me with.

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pantone 19 yrs ago
When looking for a partner don't look for someone that you can live with but look for that someone that you can't live without. Good fundamentals are a friend-playmate-partner and lover.

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joyfulone 19 yrs ago
Kindness!

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STEAN 19 yrs ago
An attractive person is attractive no matter what your taste is...


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Australian Girl 19 yrs ago
Yes, I do think (many) men put looks before personality but when you think about it, generally our first attraction to a person is based on how they look-even if they are not attractive to someone else. For me, lookswise, they have to have a great smile. One that can brighten your day and make you feel better when you're down just with a simple flash. Eyes are also important. Kind eyes and a good smile(with nice teeth)are it lookswise for me. Bodywise...there are so many different types that I can find attractive from Big(like the guy from King of Queens-love him) to thin and not so tall so it doesn't matter much to me.


Personality....Honesty and loyalty. Don't care how much money they make or whether thay can cook or dance, just as long as they are devoted and treat me right. I had that with my ex and am so scared of going into a new relationship because I don't know if I will ever find that again. Trusting is so hard for me. Hate those 40mins in front of the mirror type too!!! Did you read the article in the TIMES ASIA about the new breed of metrosexual Asian men?


Last question.....I go for different types of guys but relationship failures help you to realise what you want and don't want in a guy don't they?

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shirleythien 19 yrs ago
Agreed with Australian Girl's comment! However, a man with a brain is a MUST on my list.

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Greatcatch 19 yrs ago
I could wile away the hours

Conferrin' with the flowers

Consultin' with the rain

And my head I'd be scratchin'

While my thoughts were busy hatchin'

If I only had a brain.


I guess I'm off your list!

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voiceofreason 19 yrs ago
Male, 32 to 50, with functioning appendages. Yes, that includes the big one sitting on top of shoulders.

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voiceofreason 19 yrs ago
Seriously now... ;-)


personalitywise: smarts, humor, honesty

lookswise: prefer dark-haired guys; sexy rather than handsome (i should be the pretty one in the relationship, not him! ;-) )

each new person: totally different physical types, but mostly smart, kind, honest, funny

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wildorchid 19 yrs ago
understanding, honesty, kind heart and loyalty.

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shoun francis 19 yrs ago
Didn't someone say: beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that destiny will see through your life partner.....


Having said that, for me its gotta to be the first feeling, the impact, the heart pounding moment of seeing the beauty of closeness, which eventually attract my attention to her, and she takes a control of me whenever I am with her, not for her looks, but for her gentle smile, her soft touch, her lasting words of honesty, and most of all her expression when I make love to her, they radiate from within and not from without.....call me old fashion, but I doubt any one of us, would resist those feelings when the kick inside of you...now that's destiny and that's fate....otherwise, your heart feels horney....little brothers and sisters...get stressesed up, fighting their way to see through opportunities...seemingly waiting for the right moment to kill, in the name of gentle social freak...and the feelings, worns out...and to defend my statement here, how many of us....felt so secured, accepted, loved, respected...during the time when we first met!!!, romance ends baby...it surely ends, but true nature, truely accepted, never fades, because we accept them for who they are...with passion....


But seriously, how many of us, take this moments of truth in hand, gracefully, listening our hearts and follow them through with good intentions, to begin with.....talk about....quick fix, horney nights, and instance makeovers....hymm....what else did I missed out???

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Grenade 19 yrs ago
Barf!

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Vulvic 19 yrs ago
Yet another post from Mr Shoun Francis that makes no sense, lol.


Have to admit, I also think that fella from King of Queens is cute. He has a cheeky face as my Mum would say.

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