How to "turn down" someone nicely?



ORIGINAL POST
Posted by wildorchid 19 yrs ago
Do you enjoy going out with him? I used to go out with many guys without any intimate things just like pastime mates.


What are the signs from the guy making you think that he wants to start a relationship with you?

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wildorchid 19 yrs ago
I think you should figure it out about your feelings first. If you're sure you don't want to have a closer relationship with him, then just refuse to go out with him 2-3 times, he'll understand your implication. To turn it down nicely, you should make up some sound reasons each time when you say you don't go out with him.

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Vulvic 19 yrs ago
Agree with Tuttifrutti. You need to end things face to face. If you are adult enough to have relationships, you are adult enough to end them - I don't care how soft you are!


Refuse his invitation to go to dinner, movies whatever and instead invite him for coffee. Do this in the daytime, not the nighttime. Then tell him to his face that you are no interested in seeing him anymore.


It's so simple, I don't know why you didn't think of it yourself.

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wildorchid 19 yrs ago
According "Men from Mars...", in this case you should have let him express his worries without asking much:)).


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wildorchid 19 yrs ago
hahaha! Very funny, though I agree with you, JC.


Foxx, iIn this context, I would tell him straight but not by saying that "you're not my type".

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wildorchid 19 yrs ago
what about telling this on the phone? he can feel the seriousness of your refusal and not to "lose face" at the same time.

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wildorchid 19 yrs ago
So what if he cries out? What about yourself?

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wildorchid 19 yrs ago
You must be too soft or coward, sorry to say!

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wildorchid 19 yrs ago
that's difficult to leve in this life then, just like youself in this simple to many case.

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Greatcatch 19 yrs ago
Try being HONEST


If he is not your kind of guy....tell him in a polite way your true feelings. Nothing wrong in staying friends or going out for a coffee now and then........

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Posh 19 yrs ago
tell him the truth! truth hurts ja...but lie hurts longer!

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cybersprocket 19 yrs ago
Well, as it turns out... this is the other relationship I have had this week on AX... (sarcastic)


But wouldn't that be funny (serious) :)

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STUCK 19 yrs ago
That would be more than funny that would be hillarious!

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lilichan 19 yrs ago
tell him that u want a conversation face to face to him and that he has to wear sunglasses and a cap and tell him if he starts to cry or shout u just shut up and stop talking to him.

then he ll be nice again and u can and end up the conversation with tact and say that ur too busy for a relationship with anybody and that u dont want to invest time in relationship , that u just think about ur career and maybe later u might consider it

thats my most diplomatic sentence to turn down nicely in a early stage , u just say u cannot promice anything t him now and a hanging out with him is nice enough for u now and blablaba u ll make ur own speech without choosing any upseting word against his nature or character. just say it s ur fault u cannot be engaged in anything serious now and u cannot respond to his requests as a divorced man with a child.... to much responsaility ...people just like when u tell them it s ur fault and nobody else s mistake!

he cannot get jalous and he ll kind of understand .... without beeing too angry

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wildorchid 19 yrs ago
Hey, I thought the story ended happily already when you texted him back without his reply! Who feels lonely, you or he? We hear only you sobbing!

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evohe 19 yrs ago
Obviously you were wasting your time. I know it is tough but sometime you have to be crude. You will feel much better afterwards. And you don't need to dragg on and on things.


I remember one time, after hearing half an hour of stupid giggling, I stopped the conversation and said. Hmmm, I am sorry, but I don't feel the connection. Errr, you are not my type, so since we are not getting anywere, let's enjoy the rest of the day .... appart.


Half an hour later SMS :" Who do you think you are ??? David Beckham !!!!"


Hahahaha classic. Pfuiii


Of course you can be much softer, but when someone is sticky, well you give them a kicky !

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