exactly! sorry nimby, we've all "been there, done that", as posters...
but do consider JC's idea of giving her a deadline.
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19 yrs ago
really cannot believe people have no sex on a long relationship...i must be a nympho! hhahahaha
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true. nimby: do what The Bear suggests
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Nimby, I cant believe how u could have been so tolerant with her! Bravo! A sign of true love, but I sens that your girl is coping w/a lot of psycological issues and it could be that she aint satisfied w/herself and her own body.
It might sound corny, but ever thought about counceling?
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tia
19 yrs ago
Well, I asked my b/f about this.
His reply was:
"If I had no pen!s, I guess that would be the way to do it, yeah."
Does that answer your question?
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Tia, your question was not tactfully asked or it lacked creativity.
It makes sense to receive a blunt answer. I bet u received many.
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lulu
19 yrs ago
Propose and see how it goes.
Dun get fustrated as i think you just lack of sex, after you left her, find a normal relationship , you will be fine. You can also find love somewhere, not from her.
For me, if i love a person, i will do anything for him, and i think i would very much love to have sex with him as well. She sound really selfish.
Sorry i am picky, cannot deal with a strange relationship like that.
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What is wrong with you men??????????
You agree to a sex-free relationship because your partner will not have intercourse, yet she won't marry you when you ask her.
Do you not see an obvious solution to your conundrum???
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Yet another example of manipulation through sex (or the lack thereof)
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Definitely in need of a therapist I think.
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lulu
19 yrs ago
Yeah, they do most stuff except intercourse, that is pretty sick. I think this woman has problems.
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Hey people, don't forget that the lady had bad experience when she was still young.
Someone already posted rightly in the beginning that she or both of you should see a councellor. Don't wait till the marriage, it would be more painful if you both find it out that you are not compatable.
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Well2
19 yrs ago
No No No i won't.
He's been wonderful lately :-)
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Well2, aren't you the girl that gets jealous if her b/f talks to another woman?? Yet you think about cheating on him.
You don't sound like a full bag of marbles to me.
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Well2
19 yrs ago
hey i just think, i've never done and will not do such thing. I am very loyal and faithful (to him). I love him so much and i won't do anything to hurt him, i always put him in first priority, even we have this little problem, i still think i am lucky to have him.
You know, sometimes ppl imagine it with Brad Pett, does that count?
:-)
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19 yrs ago
Nimby, 4 years of your obvious commitment and show of respect should be more than enough to prove you are not the same kind of guy as she experienced 6 or 7 years ago.
She is going to have lifelong issues with this unless she deals with it another way (therapy? - and only if she actually wants it resolved)
It isn't right for her to "almost" have sex, watch pornos, accept masturbation, etc, and then not go ahead with actual penetration.
If you love her you need to accept this may be the way sex will always be for you as a couple.
OR
You may need to accept she sees the actual act as something more than it actually is. She may think of it as some kind of precious commodity to be used for negotiation. Perhaps if you do finally cross that line, she may forever treat it as "you know, I gave this to you...."
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19 yrs ago
Nimby, you have done evrything to prove yourself, if she can't come around soon to accepting marriage, if that is what you want, she is going to lose you.
It would be so sad but if she can't deal with her past issues after so long with such a wonderful guy, she may make you miserable for your whole life. You don't deserve this.
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19 yrs ago
well sexual compability is very essential for a relationship, but i do know a lot of couples dun care about that. They just want to tell people they are married or have a boyfriend/girlfriend and they keep enjoying to suffer.
Sorry i cannot do that. Sex is really important for me in a relationship.
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She's playing a power game whether she realises it or not. What's the bet that, if you two ever get married, ANY spot of bother that you ever experience together will become the pretext for her "not feeling like it". Excuse my French, but you're being pussy-whipped my friend - in an entirely metaphorical sense, of course.
Anyway, what kind of relationship is it, when every once so often, you can't enjoy plooging each other's brains out?
Ultimatum! Ultimatum! Ultimatum!
And make it a good one ... 8 fingernails raked across your back, dents in the headboard, and the of course the triple play - police, fire and ambulance all arriving at once.
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