Into you? How do you tell?



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Posted by freshjive 19 yrs ago
How to tell whether a person is into you?

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shaq 19 yrs ago
The person wanna do anything for you with 'style' :D.

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freshjive 19 yrs ago
I feel that as people mature, they become more subtle and less forthcoming. In simpler words, it is more difficult to tell whether a person is into you. If it is not the case, then the book bearing this title will not be the best seller last year, right?

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Vulvic 19 yrs ago
I think people become a little more 'guarded' as they get older. However, when you meet someone really special, all that goes out the window.

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Vulvic 19 yrs ago
Ueber - very cynical. Are you not feeling festive and loving towards fellow man today?

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Vulvic 19 yrs ago
Ha ha, at least you're honest.


Actually, I had a quick flick through the book and it seems to draw the same conclusions as you: some people will make all manner of excuses for their partners because they are afraid to face facts.


When someone is really into you, there is absolutely no doubt in your mind and silly insecurities fade away.

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shaq 19 yrs ago
Vulvic >>

'When someone is really into you, there is absolutely no doubt in your mind and silly insecurities fade away' .... that's if you know the person is into you and genuinely as well, in which case you would have noted some clues. Isn't it??

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Vulvic 19 yrs ago
Yeah, that's what I said innit?


Unless you are talking about secret admirers etc.

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shaq 19 yrs ago
Nop! I guess we're at/on the same front. Cheers!! :))

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cybersprocket 19 yrs ago
Huh... I am just eh opposite... i have gotten much less subtle as i age... it's more about self confidence and knowing what I want. If I am "into someone" i will tell them. If they want to date me cool, if not, bummer, but life goes on.


Last woman i was into... after a group activity, I got her email address and sent her fairly simple note saying... "I really enjoyed your company, and found you quite charming. Do you have a boyfriend, and if not, would you be interested in going on a date with me?"


When someone sends you that email, that's a pretty darn good indication that they are "into you."



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Dorris 19 yrs ago
how can you tell he's not into you? That may help !


1. He belches in your face and says your a crap cook


2. He never wants to take you anywhere and tells you that you cant meet his mates cos they are a strange bunch and he doesnt trust them.


3. He tells you all his mates think your crazy


4. He never looks good when he comes to meet you and smells like dog sh*t


5. He rarely smiles when you are together, makes love to you and very often leaves (unless something on the tv is good) within half an hour.


6. You notice that he always seems to see you in the run up to payday. lends money off you and never pays it back. You also notice that you doesnt see you atall for the week after pay day.


7. He doesnt compliment you


8. Sex is fast and furious all the time.


9. He is always saying negative things about what you do or say


10. He doesnt make you feel good.


If you can say yes to 3 of these then he definately dont like you! If you cant say yes to any then he likes you!

Simple isnt it? LOL



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voiceofreason 19 yrs ago
i'm with The Bear and cybersprocket on this one: the older i get, the easier it is to tell if someone is into me, and conversely the easier it is for me to make it VERY clear that i am into someone. ideally all b.s. and insecurities are shed over time, as we know ourselves better. my bf and i almost instantaneously "knew", and showed, that we were into each other. so far so good - it's what sustains our LDR.

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allnighter 19 yrs ago
well put voiceofreason, the bear and cyber...reasons i don't date girls in their 20s :)

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giggling_gal 19 yrs ago
Happens to me occasionally too. Sometimes I'm just not able to receive or to send properly....maybe i'm just an overworked woman. This sounds quite pathetic. Hopefully I can be cured soon ;)

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freshjive 19 yrs ago
I have the same problem with Giggling Girl. Sometimes, only after a while, I realised that...gosh...I missed a signal. Maybe I should hang out with you guys more often.

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Kiwi_Elaine 19 yrs ago
THE SIGNAL! How on earth can you tell? Please enlight me on this....

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voiceofreason 19 yrs ago
it's like the telephone game you play at children's parties: the signal is only as good as connection between the transmitter and the receiver. if the transmission is loud and clear (i.e. The Bear's "I want to be your boyfriend/lover" - btw, major brownie points to you, Bear - bravo! no mistaking THAT message!) then you'd have to be a really lousy receiver not to get the Signal. lousy signal reception is usually due to cluelessness, expectations (what you want to hear/see, vs what you actually hear/see), and other forms of interference.

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voiceofreason 19 yrs ago
oops should have added lousy transmission too - due to game-playing, deception, and fuzzy intentions

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freshjive 19 yrs ago
Seabreeze - think we are on the wrong side of the planet...

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voiceofreason 19 yrs ago
my ex-husband was very direct with me: "are you romantically involved with anyone at the moment? if not, i would like to be that person". at every important step he declared himself and his intentions: "i love you and i intend to marry you." courageous men like him and The Bear will always get the girl. you KNOW if they are into you, and their words and actions line up. well...ok, they might not always keep her, BUT i will forever admire my ex-husband for his sheer guts and bravery.

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idolized 19 yrs ago
hope thats its is not me the topic

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confusedhk 19 yrs ago
Without wishing to cast a complete negative on all the responses above,for what it's worth, and from personal experience, you can never really be sure when somebody is"into you". The only certain thing is everybody in life has their own agenda, and being into yuo for a period that suits may be all that you experience. I for one will keep everything close to my chest in future until the other party actually saysd " I AM INTO YOU" hahaha

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imotherearth 19 yrs ago
bullsh*t situations

lol

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Eva27561 19 yrs ago
If that person can possibly be anywhere in the world by chooes to be with you, that person is not simply into you. That person loves you. But the reality is that you only meet people or be with people when you two already in the same place. That allows the 'into' thing to develop. A lot of people give up when they have to part. The 'into' didnt got any further than the geographic bundary that love can span.

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adagio 19 yrs ago
Its quite confusing already to take in all these "into you" thing but can someone enlighten me concretely and simply how do i know?

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flabbergasted 19 yrs ago
Okay:


1. He doesn't marginalise. Meaning he makes some time for you before 11.00pm which mean he just wants sex. He also provides time at weekends.I have a theory it should be saturday evening if he is serious and not even necessarily with other people he knows at first as you both have to work out yourselves first. often it takes a few months before you can decide if it is working or not.


2. By the conversations you have.


3. By the way he treats you. No, it doesn't have to be expensive restaurants etc. But treating you with respect etc. and how he speaks with you etc..

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