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beenused
19 yrs ago
i slept with a guy twice. i know he doesn't like me at all, after the 1st time i already knew, but he keep begging me to meet him again. i guess i was soft hearted.
the 2nd time i'm 100%sure he's just using my body. and the sex was digusting.
i don't wish to reveal more here because he's from asiaexpat too. but i can tell u more if u message me directly(in case u want to be aware of this person)
well anyway, for those guys who think that girls are stupid....no we are not......maybe I(we) are also some lonely beings who wish to be cared for and loved...
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if you are expecting more than just physical pleasure, shouldn't you sleep with the guy only when you are entirely sure he likes you? why did you go back the second time when you knew he didn't like you as much as you would like him to?
if ur after sex, then no complaints but if you are after more than that,please follow your head not your heart...
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There are always predators in the personal columns (not just male). Some are sexual predators, others have different interests. And there are always genuine lonely people that can be taken advantage of.
Sometimes people lend money etc. as well.
It is sad that you had to learn this lesson. But right that you have warned others.
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shaq
19 yrs ago
Common sense, it is said, is common but not common to everyone (I mean no insult).
From your text, I can see that all the indications that you were going to be used were there. Yet, you pursued your 'thing', even in the second time round, and then come to us and complain???? Ha! Gal, this one one, I'm sure you'll have no sympathy from our women-folk here (I stand for objection). Peace out!!
SHAQ
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spacedust-
yes, he did told me he want me only, and he likes me only. take it that its my own stupidity.2nd time was to really see if he means what he say. so it has proven well enough that he's not trueful, so there's no need for 3rd time.
i find it hard to juggle between being traditional and being open, especially in such modern times. If there's so much attraction, should one refrain from having sex because they are not in a relationship? there's really no right and wrong, just personal morals i guess.
thanks for replying.
in case u are wondering, i was really hoping something more meaningful would come out from this "sexual" thing but nope.
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I dunno Shaq... feelings of rejection, isolation or depression can be influential motivators at times of impending sex! They are like little devils that say out loud "he wants you, it will be fun, take it lightly..." But in reality afterwards these motivating emotions rear their ugly heads and assert all your negative feelings towards yourself, using the sexual event as the catalyst!!
Our heads work against us when all our hearts want is happiness.
It was a lesson needed to be learnt by Beenused and hopefully she will not make that mistake again.
I just hope she was careful!!...
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shaq
19 yrs ago
Hmmm!!! I told you, girl, the ladies ain't gonna be all kind with you with this one:P.
Girl, simply put, no matter the situation you may be in (emotional or whatever) the keyword is CAREFULNESS; and use your head... *sign*.
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"in case u are wondering, i was really hoping something more meaningful would come out from this "sexual" thing but nope"
Beenused- nothing meaningful would come out from the sexual thingy, the only thing comes out is the end of the journey for the guy to get to know you and fall for you...
like what JC said, why even bother emailing people who this guy is? move on, let go and get over it..
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wow, i'm catch off guard by all these comments, whether negative or positive.
condoms-yes
pity- i don't need it
lessons learn- definately
stupidity- well, happens to everyone once in their life
bothered by it- not really, i poof it off this morning
telling people in the forum to gain pity- for what? i rather gain cash
telling people in the forum to warn others- i don't see anything wrong with that.
why 2nd time?- everyone/thing deserve a 2nd chance, including myself.
lastly, give me a break guys, i'm not crying as if i'm in a funeral. i'm just sharing experience. i'm not expecting pity or sorry or whatever.
don't have to batter me up like some whipped cream or what.
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gaining cash is better than gaining pity. simple as it is.
no, there's no lonely boo hoo need to be loved issue here.
whipped cream- words slashing.
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i am moving on. thanks. correction, i HAD move on.
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JC...you crack me up girl! But you're right! I dont give any sympathy either. beenused...how old did you say you were????? The title of your post alone will get a response. Your post makes it sound as if he took something from you that you freely gave! Not once, but....lol.....twice! I guess you had to make sure the sex was bad! Its comical how many times we hear the same stuff, over and over. "He just used me", "he told me I was the only one"! I mean come on....did you think about the possibility of him wanting you for sex only from the beginning?? That didn't even come into your mind? Or were you wanting to do him also? Dont make the man out to be the bad guy here....you gave it up twice so your just as responsible for the outcome.
Dont put yourself in that position and you wont be taken advantage of. But of course you know that now right?
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Please pray tell, whom are you trying to help here?
But that's what you get when you want superficiality. So why complain? Are you just telling us that the sex was bad and you need more? Cuz tell you what, I come dressed with lassos and, the vest and the full gear. If you need some wild west love, PM me.
Otherwise, just spill the name. The next thing he's going to do is just change his login id.
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Yeah, but bad sex, twice, with the same person??
Beenused - you said 'everyone has done it once'...
Well yes! Once, but not twice with the same guy, no wonder you feel humiliated!!
Move on, it's only tomorrows' old news...
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We only learn from mistakes. So you shoudl conside lucky to have learn something about yourself and other people.
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So why did you go back? Curiosity, desperation, sympathy for a dud lover? If you are promiscuous and non-discriminatory there are consequences...but you know that now.
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what compelled you to sleep with this guy knowing he doesn't like you at all? And twice??? Girl, you have some issues to work on..
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lulu
19 yrs ago
i have to say sorry for "been used" as she only want to be bitchy and start to spread a bad name on someone in Asiaxpat, but she got is that she is stupid and should not complain. hahahaha
Been used> how about thinking this way, that his body is "been used" by you rather than him using yours?
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This is just a stupid story. You only have sex with people you want to have sex with, when you want to have sex. Learn from your mistakes.
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I agree with ueberundraus....
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