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hmmmm
19 yrs ago
If a guy (bf) says he loves you, and yet he has never sent any gifts or flowers. or put any thoughts into what to do for dates or where to have dinner, does he really care about the girl? Or what's on his mind?
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19 yrs ago
Have you sent him any gifts?
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Who cares? Is he a good person? Do you like him? Does he treat you well? It's only been 6 months, you expect too much.
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hmmmm
19 yrs ago
First of all, thanks for the advices. For most of the time, he offers to help me solve many problems. Maybe I feel like he doesn't care because my ex used to surprise me with gifts (I don't care about the value of the gift, it's just the thought of getting me something). It's just weird that he didn't get me flowers on V-day.
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whatever you decide, the bottom line is: be honest with yourself and with your boyfriend. if gifts and flowers mean a lot to you, accept that, and make it known.
it's not fair on him to have you secretly resent him for not fulfilling your unexpressed expectations, nor is it fair to not appreciate what he DOES in fact give you - maybe not tangible gifts, but equally important ones.
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Different guys express their love in different ways --some are not into gifts, flowers and planning dates (like my husband when we were still dating), but that doesn't mean they don't care or love you.
Some can't verbalize their feelings but use gifts as a way to express themselves. I think your disappointment stems from the comparison with your ex who used to surprise you, plus your own expectations of how a guy SHOULD express his love.
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Yes, beware the man that brings you a single (battered) rose at 4am on a Saturday.
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My Dad used to give mum flowers the days after he'd come home drunk and beat the hell out of her - consistent kindness, consideration and respect are worth a lot more than gifts.
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Nemesis, lol! I'm sure you're not.
My Mum always used to joke about my Dad bringing battered roses home on a Sat night. Was usually his way of saying sorry for staying out late with the lads and getting smashed.
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Well,I am married for 2 yrs, and havent received ne gifts or flowers from my husband, does it mean, he doesnt care for me?? well, when i fell i should have got the flowers and the chocolates, i just ask for them myself. whats the point being sad, if you like it just tell him to get you flowers and chocolates or whatever.
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Meems
19 yrs ago
Maybe he...
(A) Doesn't have much experience in dating.
(B) is lonely and Just using you to past time.
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