Posted by
mspretty
19 yrs ago
my best friend broke up w/ his bf few mths ago. actually, they'd been seeing each other for a long time & that's why she's so sad for a while. she starts to meet different people now but still can't find a right guy. she's so upset & lonely & scared not to find a bf ever. i really want to help her but i don't know how.
can anyone tell me how can i find a bf for her? don't tell me go to the pub/club as u know guys meet girls in such places looking for sex. she really looks for LTR. pls help
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Meeting someone new when she is still mourning can be the worst thing. It is called rebound. The feeling is like you cant get rid of hangovers and yesterday's puke. It is HORRIFIC. The best thing to do now is to lay off men. Spend more time with her friends and families. Recover first. There is no hurry.
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sorry, i forgot to mention she's been going out w/ her bf for 10 yrs, she said she can't be single cos feels lonely. she doesn't like ONS as she tried b4. it's not easy to develop a long relationship like that.
she did enlarge social circle, met some other guys but they don't seem right for her, she starts to search ppl on net as well
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she said she's scared not finding another one for the rest of her life, now she lives by herself er.
yes, might not find her someone special but at least help her to solve the probs, going out w/ her, shopping together.... enjoy being single... can't see her everyday, will try to talk to her every second day. Thx everyone
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cym
19 yrs ago
HI
I think your friend needs time to see what she really wants in a relation.She needs to be positive do things that make her happy!!A man is not the answer for happiness.If we dont love oursellves from within then how can you look for love.YOu have ot be whole again to meet a right soulmate not bed mate.Bed mates are plenty!!but is that the answer to LTR?I dont think so.hk has more women than men
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Just leave her alone. She will be alright. Getting a new bf for her is not of help.
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WOW!!! thats quick looking for a LTR after only couple of months. Sure she is wanting to find someone to avoid going through the pain. Speaking from experience I was with my ex husband for 10 years and even 10 months on I am definately not wanting to find LTR. Yes it is difficult in the first few months to live on your own again and adjust to being a "ME" and not an "US" but I know for me I am quite proud that I was able to get through it and manage on my own as I had not lived on my own for 16years. As her friend if you want to help her take her out shopping, movies, dancing etc...which will distract her from thinking of the past but also for her to discover who she is again. I never believed it when people would tell me "Each day will be easier" but it is so true!!! I am actually on speaking terms with me ex which 6mths ago would never have thought possible as there was so much turmoil and was not an easy split. Get her out and tell her to hang in there and finding another man will not help will only confuse the issue.
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