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yummy
19 yrs ago
This happen when my husband had STD, mollescum. I do not have any STD after checking with doctor. He said that he didn't cheat on me. Arcording to him It could happen before he meet me or from the towel, etc. I do not trust him anymore. So i asked him to tell me all the thinks he does not tell me before i finds out.
He said that before we got marry (which dating/engaged), he went out with guys trip to play golf in Indonesia, he had a message, where the messeure offer extra services, which he said he decline the offer.
I told him that if you want to save the relationship i told him, when you go on golf trip, i will follow. He said that is not possible. If you have nothing to hide why can't he bring me. He said no, the guys will think i don't trust him, his ego will drop. He prefer to end the relationship than to allow me following him to his trip. Any comment or advice from you guys. It is more important for his ego than his own wife. We just married not too long ago.
Am i asking for too much or is it him?
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Hi,
As you have said in your msg that "It is more important for his ego than his own wife",so what is hold you not to make up your mind?
Now,for him, you are less important than his golf trip while you two just got married,do you still have confidence that he will not add anything else in the list to make you much less important again after the golf trip?
Be nice to yourself,he has no right to treat you in this way,Good luck.
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yummy
19 yrs ago
I don't know what is holding me back, but he is not those type of guys. He is nice and people sees him as nice person and good husband. (or i'm too over protected or insecure over him) I do not want a divorce, is not good for our family or his family.
I just don't understand why he just can't agree to it, or allow me to go when he play golf. He said it's guys things to do and the rest of the guys do not bring their gf/wife.
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Do you believe in Jesus Christ,THERE is a reason for this Question because this is within.
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cant see the connection on DaT.R.U.T.H's comment above... hmm..
anyway, only think is can say is... guy's have this thing about bringing their gf/wife with them when they hang out. like playing golf is his time with his buddies. they say they need this for their ego thing, then let them be! u just need to trust him. it is unhealthy for a relationship when there is no trust. if i were in your shoes, i would just let him be with his friends, and take that opportunity to connect with your own girlfriends. chill out and relax gurl..
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Choose what you trust and trust what you chose.
Good luck.
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yummy
19 yrs ago
nifty, he said that "end the relatonship" It's not as simple as not letting me going on a golf trips with his guys friends. It means( when there is no trust , the relationship will not go on)I will be angry with him and he get upset. But it's hard for me to trust him.
rititt
Have checked i do not have STD, we have a serious talk. after a while i accused and insist that he is wrong, that's where things gone worse. That's where the golf trip comes in.
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meeow
19 yrs ago
you know what honey, you can put a guy in chains...if his heart is not faithful to you, there is not one thing you can do to change that...so stop torturing yourself over the 'what ifs' , let him have his trip, have faith in yourself and don't let this eat you up..sometimes, people get put off if they are being cross-examined over their every move....if he is being unfaithful, sooner or later, he'll come out with it, so why lose sleep over it now
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Hold a second guys,here we all understand that in a relation(marriage or dating),both of us need to have some private time to be with friends and so on,BUT it doesn't mean in this "time",we can cheat on our bf/gf right?When did private time become a excuse to cheat?
There is nothing to do with his trip,but his attitude.
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yummy
19 yrs ago
rititt, I think you are right. I actually push him and accused him. He said he had enough of being, abused by me. Many time divorce was on his mind.
meow, I think there is no point if i keep following, that 's not what i want to do. I also wants to do things on my own/friends. How many times can i follow, after a while you will get bored. I can't be keep following him every way. He will get sick of me and that's not the life to go on. If he really want to do something, he can do it not on his golf trip but others.
I heard people said, as long as your husband comes back to you,know that you are his wife, brings money home, treat this as his and your home, it shouldn't be a problem. Other things he does is a guy things. Unless someone has any comment on this. Like what meow said, you can't chain your husband.
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He's into hookers. I'm from indonesia myself. I know what's happening there, esp when it's dirt cheap...
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yummy
19 yrs ago
lauren order, you mean i just need to forgive him and move on?
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yummy
19 yrs ago
but he let me go out at night and also on girl trip. He will support me on that.
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Insist on wearing condoms when you make love - becasue you do not want to catch any nasty disease from him. He won't like that either.
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yummy
19 yrs ago
thanks for everyone advice.
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