Friends & Family vs Love Blinded

I have dated a guy that my family didn't wholly approve of. However, they based their opinion on first impressions rather than getting to know the man in question. They soon changed their minds once they got to know him and his family.


Sometimes we make errors in judgement, family included.

It took several months of showing up and joining my family for Sunday lunch until my brood finally warmed up to my then-boyfriend (now my husband). Initially, and I guess understandably so, all of them were not too quick in welcoming him, since he was the first boyfriend I ever introduced.


Also, in the beginning, one very good friend openly disapproved of him, but I ignored her, and felt that he was THE one. To this day, the once very close friendship was never the same. No regrets though...

For the two above, you guys are lucky. In my case, I dated someone whom my family and friends disapproved of. No one liked him. In fact, my relationship with my family was strained because of that.


I tried so hard to defend him and spoke well of him. I would involve him in my family outings and friends gathering so that they will get to know him better and learn to accept him. Yet things never improved.


Not too long after, we broke up. Not because of our family's objection but due to the fact that he was dishonest. Everyone feel like he was not right for me yet I chose not to see that. I felt that they were biased and did not even get a chance to know him.


At the end of the whole thing, I realised that I have never loved him actually. He was a buoy that I hung on to after my previous relationship. Everyone saw that except me. It made me realise that sometimes, family concern does have a valid reason.