Guys... I'm confused could you pls advise...



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Posted by Chalupa 19 yrs ago
Sorry, But I will like to hear men's point of view

however girls you can help too..

I used to date this guy like 3 years ago on and off during 1 year, he never cossidered me he's gilr friend, but he's friends alwasy introduced me with other peoples as he's girl friend.

any way we split up and he always been in touch send me SMS and even when he is overseas always in touch recently he send me loads of SMS telling me that he realy loves me and misses me. I agree to meet up again thinking that we have history together and maybe this time will work out, he told me he's feelings for me still very strong so we end up together and everything was ok like before. after that day I try to egt in touch with him and he said that he is too bussy and stressed out about job, and he need time... I'm been paranoich or he just wanna has his revange... I'm really down, do know what to do, any positive advice, thansk allot


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simonchiu 19 yrs ago
forget him! unworthy!

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wendy7 19 yrs ago
Guys like the chase - girls or otherwise. I think that it was less challenging for him as you didnt "put up a fight" or let him chase you. Unfortunately, with this type of guy, you could have played the game and once he caught you it would have been the same - just a little later. Sounds like he needed you to boost his ego (does someone still love me?) at a low point in his life and now you have been put on the back burner. If he was sooooo desperate to re-connect with you, why the c#$@ about work? He should be wooing you again. Idiot (him, not you).

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peter101 19 yrs ago
Your his little toy - he doesn't love you.He just calls you when he wants some sex.He's going to call you again 100%.He will say how much he loves you and can't live without you bla bla bla and once again you will fall for it. He thinks of you as an easy lay and doesn't want the emotional attachment.Your soft hearted, maybe a little heart broken , maybe even a little desprate.It all equals to one thing = a booty call...sorry to say but most guys look for the easy catch and thats usually the desprate ex ... don't pick up his calls would be the best solution ... or tell him you have a serious yeast infection and need his support to accompany you to the local clinic - think your love can make it then??? haha . Sorry, but seriously your being played sweety , move on.

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Chalupa 19 yrs ago
simon chu.. thanks for the advise I think that is what I will do.

NAIMA... Well I think I been saying no for the past 2 years.


WENDY... you are totaly right that is the case but I'm upset about it ( not broken heart) but piss cuzz we know each other for a long time


peter101....thanks for your comments but definitely not an easy catch and you are right I know he will call many more times very soon but I won't be there to take hes calls. and for sure I'm not desprate..

I just don't quite understand what is wrong with him, he keep telling people that we still together.. any way he must be smoking allot of grass and ...


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shaq 19 yrs ago
Forget him, except if you like his calls and 'hand-downs'.


Some people care less about others feelings and it's up to you to see and care less about their selfish needs. Beware and don't allow yourself to be taken for granted.


Surely, he'll be calling again with 'sugary' words soon ... and I'll advise that you tell him to go to f**king hell. You need to be strong to do this. Cheers!!!!!!


Shaq

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Chalupa 19 yrs ago
Shag...

thanks for yoru advise, for sure he won't take me for granted this time... I will tell him off again.

very helpful coments guys...


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peter101 19 yrs ago
rather than showing him your hurt by his pathetic behaviour, you should forgive him for his desprate acts of hurting you.Explain to him its over and never talk to him again... this will help in your healing process and you can finally close that chapter in your life.It will be hard at first but at least you can walk away knowing you were honest with him and you tried your best. Shit happens but you got to be look after yourself first. you cant rely on anyone in this crazy world esp when it comes to your feelings being cared for -

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purplelady 19 yrs ago
move on with your life.....he is just not into YOU!

am sure you are able to find someone more worthy and appreciate you....it's does take time though but don't just hang on there waiting for him.

Don't waste your precious time on him.

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sally 19 yrs ago
just wanna know where does ur bf stay? sounds like the same case as my friend in gz.

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Chalupa 19 yrs ago
Hi.. Sally,

Well I hope is note the same person, he lives in hk and work here too, the only trips he does are to australia and thailand

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dhee 19 yrs ago
hi chalupa! when you were going out with him, he couldn't even give you an assurance that you were special to him as his girlfriend. that's why you were wondering what you were to him. at the first place, i think you should talk to him about this to know where you were at. but it's history.


anyway, now you are involved with him again. i don't think you want to repeat the old story. i can see that obviously you still have a feeling for him, otherwise you would have just ignored him and wouldn't be so confused and feeling down. maybe... he likes you and still has a strong feeling for you, it's just that you two are not in the same phase. you want a steady relationship while he's not in a space for that. so my advice is : be in charge, do not hesitate to tell him what you want from him. if he can not meet your expectations, i'm sure you know what to do. don't waste your time, forget about him. it will be hard in the beginning, but one day you'll get over it and you will be fine.

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Chalupa 19 yrs ago
Hi.. dhee,

all your comments are right, I think that what I'm facing here (on my side) is a pride Issue I've been rejecting him many times and now that we suposed to get back together he ignores me.


However I think I always had felling for him, but knowing the way he is that is why I allways keep my distance, but anoyed me to know that he is just playing hes luck.

well I think I know what I have to do...

thanks guys for your time and commenst

Cheers..!!!

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