somewhat perplexed



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Posted by fiorellino 18 yrs ago
My boyfriend and I had a conversation this morning that left me a little perplexed. I came across an article on bondage - about a couple that were into an all too public display, wherein he would lead her around the village on a leash. On telling my partner about this he said that this could possibly be something he could be into. I'm afraid I'm just not on board with this one! Is this all too weird? and I'm a prude for not entertaining this idea at all!? is it time indeed for a cool sharp harp?

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COMMENTS
wendy7 18 yrs ago
Perhaps he was joking? Just a thought.... Sounds, errr.... a bit weird. Now who would be into that?! I reakon he was having a lend of you!

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voiceofreason 18 yrs ago
maybe he meant bondage was something he could be into "in the bedroom"...not necessarily in public. why don't you ask him exactly what he meant? ;-)

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annebin 18 yrs ago
I see moms in malls with a kid in tow tied to a leash. Maybe the person in the article had the same awful experience when he/she was a child...but I'm digressing...


As VOR said, he might have meant bondage in the bedroom. Just curious, so how did you react when he said this??

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setanta 18 yrs ago
Hi fiorellino,

I think u need to identify exactly what your problem with this is.

Would it be ok with u to be on a leash indoors and in private?

If u can accept doing it in private it is not such a big leap to see the attraction of doing it outdoors.

Just like sex - doing it in public raises the eroticism levels.


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setanta 18 yrs ago
PS - what is 'a cool sharp harp'?

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setanta 18 yrs ago
And what is 'IMHO' Nemesis???

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voiceofreason 18 yrs ago
"In My Humble Opinion"

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fiorellino 18 yrs ago
thx for advice. the bf is serious alright!


in terms, of identifying what my problem is with this – here goes...I think that being led around on a leash is degrading and humiliating. maybe I should reconsider this?


BTW Setanta, just for info what you indoors doesn’t necessarily mean you’re happy to do outdoors!! ESPECIALLY in terms of being led around on a leash! please tell me that I’m not alone on this one!? I’m all for raising the eroticism levels – but this is something else?!


ps. time for a cool sharp is from the lager add in the 80s. "time for a cool sharp harp……time for a quick exit!!"


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setanta 18 yrs ago
Surely Ed wouldn't be that ridiculous Nemesis?

After all - we are consenting adults discussing what we like or don't like to do with our partners in the 'relationships' forum. Surely this kind of discussion is to be expected!


Anyway - back to the issue at hand: I think your problem is that you think your bf is wierd to entertain this thought. However, let me ask u these questions:

1) Do U accept that it is not wierd to find it a turn on if u do it in privacy?

2) Do u accept that the eroticism level of any sexual act (kissing or more) can be heightened by doing it in a public arena?


If your answer to these 2 questions is 'Yes' - your bf is not wierd to entertain this thought.

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fiorellino 18 yrs ago
Setanta - in answer to your questions

1). i do not find it a turn on to be led around on a leash, at home or anywhere else.

2). kissing (or more)in public (something i would/do entertain, is hardly comparable to dog walking your gf. put it this way when was the last time you saw a human on a leash...on second thoughts dont answer that!!

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setanta 18 yrs ago
F - we have established that you're not into it.


The question is whether your bf is wierd for wanting to do it.


So, leaving the issue of doing it outdoors alone - let me ask u this?


1)Do u think your bf is wierd for entertaining the thought of doing it in private?

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annebin 18 yrs ago
F, as long as BF is not asking/pressuring you to act the fantasy, then there's no problem. He merely mentioned that it is "something he could POSSIBLY be into" (then you added that he is serious..). We all have our own fetishes--if that's his, then so be it. Chill.

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greenisle 18 yrs ago
CM , ha ha!! To be able to enjoy sex, you got to be both comfortable what are you doing...Everyone have their likes and kinks, within your own limit, you can both experience something new... It could probably spice things up too!!

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mencius 18 yrs ago
Walking around with a leash on?! Quite a sight I would say?? Was this in HK?? Where were them seen?! Would love to see that!! Have anyone heard the news recently a cross dressing guy walking around with the vibrator between his legs with Cathay's uniform on?? He got busted because he kept reaching in the skirt and trying to turn the vibrator on!!! Thought that was hilarious!! he should have bought one with a remote control!!!

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mencius 18 yrs ago
what's the size of your collar 13th??? Just wondering...

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Vulvic 18 yrs ago
Harp lager....that takes me back!


I think the issue here is that fiorellino's b/f has expressed an interest in bondage that she was previously unaware of. We all like to think that we know everything about our partners but occassionally they surprise us and we surprise them.

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bandiet 18 yrs ago
fiorellino, fiorellino -- how selfish, if it puts a smile on your boyfirends face you should be happy to be paraded around the village in a bikini, fishnet stockings and a dog collar. Sheeesh, whats wrong with you? If I had a dollar for every time I did something to please my partner .... perfectly, perfectly normal.

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Vulvic 18 yrs ago
So, Fiorellino, what is the outcome of your little conflab? Have you submitted to your b/fs leash-wielding fantasy?


Agree with Keimochi fishnets and bikini is asking for trouble. The derriere would look like 10lb of potatoes in a netbag, not pleasing to the eye.

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