need advise... regarding cheating

Hi first of all... im just a new poster here but ive been reading this forum since early last year, maybe i would say a big help for all of us because first we express our feelings here 2nd we get advises from others...


My story is like this... i have a spouse maybe like a common law husband, we are not married yet but planning soon ofcourse, we've been living together for 11 years.... BUT.. only 10 days in every 4 mos.. because he is an overseas worker..luckily he can have his vacation every 4 months, he works in china, wherein i am now too, since things happened to our relationship... my hubby wants me here every 3 months for 1 month... so we can have time together ..

as you all know out there having a hubby working in china..(specifically)..is really hard for us (wifey)..because many temptation upon their journey...before I use the word " trust" so it ease my self and not giving any trash thinking my head regarding the girls there... but i was wrong, beacause all the time i really trusted him.. then thats the time he done something like using a girl for sex...its called a "whore"... i dont know if its cheating maybe yes because having a sex with someone who is not your gf/bf or hubby/wife... is considerably cheating... but he swear to me and on his knees that he never had any relationship with any women since we live together... he just tempted to pay a whore because of friends( xpats too) influence...its like for them.."its a saying" diff dishes sometimes can add a fun to your excapades...or it can boost your man image in front of your friends....so one night my hubby admitted it to me that he used a hooker.. but it took like a year before he admitted it to me.. i kept bugging him to tell me the truth and he kept telling me all the lies that time.. then till he felt heavily loads of the thing he done.. yes he said he couldnt take it anymore, its like the more he sees me the more he feels the guilts..until he confessed it to me... i couldnt take it that time but i didnt showed him that its like lightning stike to my heart...then he begged for forgiveness on his knees and he promise to me and to God that he wont do that again..then he will change till he get back my trust again... NOW the question... especially for the all the men..if a man do that confessed and admitted his sin... do you think he wont really do that again?? but whats with this " IF A MAN IS A CHEATER HE IS ALWAYS A CHEATER"... it confused me really...:((:((

Doekee if I were you I would read the thread: AFFAIRS. I have posted several times there, and I would not give a cheater a chance ever again. I learned the hard way and all they end up with stories so they can be more careful. They learn through mistakes. Bottom line by using a whore you ran the risk of catching something. Be careful.