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justagrl
18 yrs ago
I have been back here for a couple of years, been in strings of good and bad relationships / flings, and now I'm back to where I started. As I get older, the span of my relationships tend to get shorter and shorter, and I'm becoming more and more of a freaks magnet!!!! I attract all sorts of freaks...and i have been in the weirdest relationships which I could actually write a book about them.
So my question is...where can I meet some nice and normal guys? Where do single, nice, and decent guys hang out these days?
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So do you attract a lot of freaks or or you attracted to freaks???????
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Very good question...
The "freaks" that I have dated, they all seemed very normal at the beginning, they looked normal, they talked normal, they behaved normal, but soon their true self came out...
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It's so hard to tell who is normal and who is freak.Maybe we should scan ourself first.In china there is a folksay saying:people get together and are divided by his kind.
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paulm
18 yrs ago
Well I started a thread on a similar theme but from a male persepective....... 'Where to go if you are a single guy in Hong Kong'. So let me know what you come up with.
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I would say Im quite decent, of course that's according to my own standard...so it should be my luck!
So Paulm, where do you and your single guy friends hang out? Any suggestion aside from the bar/club scene?
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shaq
18 yrs ago
Try after church activities; i.e., if you could go to one of the churches in town.
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paulm
18 yrs ago
Well justagrl, lkf is the obvious place of course, but I have not yet worked out a specific bar where 'singles' hang out. Maybe there isn't one and its all about being in the right place at the right time? I suppose the other options are blind dates,friends introducing you or an organised event of some description. I think it's just as difficult here as it is in every major city.
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lulu
18 yrs ago
just a gal> i was going to write a book about the freaks i met, no , not really freaks, its scums, tossers, etc. hahaha...but the thing i gave up meeting people anymore. Not many nice and decent guys around, there are some but i am not that lucky , so do some women.
try to live your life without men, find some interest, find some girlfriends, dun search for the sake of it, you will get disappointed. I am ok now, learning to live my life happy by myself.
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I dislike the idea of meeting people in an "organised" fashion like speed dating, personals, i guess I prefer meeting someone without setting it up- justagrl how do you feel about speed dating, personals, maybe you could try this?
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lulu > i have had my fair share of scums and tossers too, maybe we can exchange material for our books, or we can even write it together!
You know, I really don't have a problem living on my own for the rest of my life, but I think life is so much better to have someone special to share it with. There are so much that I miss when I first getting to know someone, or in a relationship. I really miss feeling butterflies in my stomach, I miss the feeling of missing someone, whenever something funny happened, i miss having someone whom I would like to call right away and tell, i miss having someone whom I would look forward to see after a long day of work etc etc. Eventhough i have been hurt and disappointed many times, but still im not ready to give up yet, I am not ready to just settle with whomever or convince myself i should be alone, cos really...life is so much better to be shared with, so I will give some more time to pursue...although i really have no clue where I can meet him.
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choufleur > I dont like the idea of speed dating eventhough i have never tried it. Just the idea of selling myself to 20 different guys and all within a few minutes and receiving a "report card" of how many guys ticked me really scares me. Personals sounds better, frankly i have placed an ad on here before but the guys that replied were lame. Like one guy kept asking me to send pictures and have me to describe every single detail of my appearance, from my measurements to the size and shape and color of my fingernails without paying any interest to other non-physical things. But then i have heard successful stories so maybe I will try that again.
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paulm
18 yrs ago
Well if any of the correspondents here discover a suitable place to meet other singles please let me know. Maybe the personals is the best route
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justagrl- I understand you completely! Dont ever settle! I dream of a very romantic and sweet love which I have not had for a while now! just go out lots and meet NEW people ... that's what I need to do ... as my current friends, lovely as they are, cannot introduce me to new people etc... it doesnt hurt to meet new people
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itchyfeet > very enlightening indeed, I guess I will work on my ad tonight. I want something inbetween.... I certainly don't want to attract the players or onenighters but I don't want to sound too serious also. Will see how that works!
I think I will pass on the church idea though. I already feel bad for being a not religious christian, it would be too much to go to church just to meet guys.
Just curious, how many of you here are single and looking?
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lulu
18 yrs ago
justagrl> I totally understand what you feel like. I think giving love to someone is so great, and to love and to be loved ...feels wonderful. I missed that too...very much, but then sometime we cannot have everything in life, if you can find someone.. that's great, if you cannot, that's still a life to live.
Once a doctor told me, to get someone in your life is your luck, but having someone is not a "given" in life, so be prepared.
Doc> i tried church, personals, going out, friends' gathering, travel,(no money for those speeding dating chic) etc...but no ..nothing and i am tired, i think i better think about how to fulfill my life being single other than spending my time and ernergy looking for someone special in life.
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