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racheal
18 yrs ago
Hi,Am 33 year old lady on the process of getting divorced soon.I met guy on website and that point didn't know this relationship would work out. Let me tell u i should have been honest to him about many things i didn't..i lied to him and he always beleived me and one point he knew i was not honest and gave me lot of time stood by me in my diffculties.I met him 2 times and planned to move out with him.The amount of stress which i caused he wanted me to pay damages and i aggreed payed him Euro 2000 and another 3000 to go.In the mean time recently i got chicken pox and i mailed him about it and he still dosen't beleive me.He wants me to pay the damages and then he will talk to me.I will do it asap.I'm changed person and talking lies has brought me here. How do i make him understand that? I realise my mistakes wanting to change to be good person. Have gone thru lot of stress in my married life.He is the guy i find happiness. Please help me i would be grateful. And please guys dont hurt my feelings. Thanks!
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he wants me to pay him because i gave him him lot of stress and for him to trust me at all this money is important and he is very nice guy and told me will give back 2000 once we are together.He dosen't trust me anymore coz of my lies and that was my mistake too.I want him and he is the guy i have been longing to be with
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Well it is but but am ready to give him as long as we are together.I have gone thru lot of tough times with my husband and finally divorce would be the end with him.If i find some one who understands me and showers love am ready to pay the money just walk out.I will do that very heavy heart though
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No but why not start from ground zero and build nice relationship with him..he is fine with that. Well,if find some one..i will just leave him
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As i said give him the money if thats more important to him am ready to walk out,but need to find some one who will love,trust and give me good life which i lost previously
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racheal, you sound very desperate to me. Met a guy twice and wanted to move in. Now he demands money for "damage", namely stress in a relationship and you're willing to pay just to keep him?? But then if you find someone else, you'll leave him?? We're not talking about love here. You might as well just spend that money on yourself cause you clearly only love yourself. 5,000 Euro, oh, my god.....
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well it sounds funny to u guys..i posted this query for some help and advice from u guys & not teasing me..Well,seriously can we be friends?
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Thats nice to know there is some one who worries about me. I am feeling very low right now.Can we stay in touch..could u give me ur email id?
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rats
18 yrs ago
racheal, do not trust the guy, he is for sure a jerk! be careful, i mean, how dare he has the guts to ask you for money?
racheal, how long have you been working in Singapore? you sounds really desperate and depressed to me. are you trying to use this man to get rid of the unhappniess you have to deal with the devoice? Maybe you should try to get over the depression/troubles that you have to face with your devoice before you move on to any relationship, don't just grab a man, that won't do!!
good luck!
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racheal> nothing you have said explains why he should ask for money and nothing explains why you should give him money. There has been no breaking of a contract - in fact there has been no contract. It sounds like he is a conman who is taking advantage of your naivety and desperation.
Tell him that if he wants any more money then he should go through a lawyer, that you will not speak to him again - except through a lawyer. Tell him you will do the same. I would not suggest you contact the police at this stage because I don't know the mental state of this person. Record all phone calls, messages, SMSs, communications.
Although it might not seem like it now, but this divorce can make you stronger and give you time to sort out who you are and what you want. Just don't have one of those things you want to be a man who demands money from you for his company. You deserve better than that and you will find it.
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Hi Rachel!!
no matter how bad or good you are or if you have made some mistakes, if a man or any person aske you for money in order to accept you of forgive you, got to be something wrong with that person and that is call ( black mailing) have you commited any crime? no right, have you get envolved on drugs case? no right so why to give him money?
if he want money he should work and not been asking to a lady, with that stupid excuses
come on girl you deserve better than that.
You shouldn't have to buy love or attention as a human been you are important already as long as you truely think so.
A broken marrige doesn't make you bad or less than any one, is just something to happend
hope you stay well and take care
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Racheal,
Are you for real ?
Whatever you are smoking, it's pretty damn good stuff.
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I think Rachael is having you guys on.
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rats
18 yrs ago
maybe we should get the money instead, have Racheal come to HK and let's have a great party somewhere at LKF lol
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with the rate it is going...u can buy them all new...no more used.. :)
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lulu
18 yrs ago
Either Rachel is fake and want a wind up OR she need to see the doctor...urgently about her problem.
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You do not need him, but you most surely need help.
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Hi,I have been reading your replies.For some its just to sarcee or teasing me.Well thats fine..i don't care.There are some nice people too,who are ready to hear me out.Momo8 u had asked what happened to me? Well,my final papers for divorce has gone thru so was going to the court and was busy meeting the lawyer.Now coming to that guy asking me itself.If i have gain back his trust need to do some things and i did it..Last in row is the money.I know what he is doing is not correct but what i thought give it to him and try changing him being together. I can no longer stay in singapore after 15 days as PR status expires.Have been looking out for jobs in Europe thats where he is based. He has stood by my diffcult times..even being apart always of moral support to me.Some things turned different..I realise my mistakes too and want to change.Have gone thru lot pain in my 7 years of marriage.Found happiness when i met him.Hope people understand am not faking here.I have better things to do than wasting anyones time..just wanted third person perspective and ideas.
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Well,ok then help me..come up with thoughts..am not here to listen nasty way of talking..some of u guys did it.If u were in my situation u would know what am going thru
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lulu
18 yrs ago
rachel> we are not being nasty or cynical, but then i think you do need some professional help. No guys (even gals) should ask someone they love to give them money to compensate of the stress. Money cannot buy off stress or love. 5000 EURO is not small ammount. I think you can do better on your own or without him. Dont drag, move a step and you will feel much happier.
If you continue to see this guy, wish you good luck, but you might even suffer more than your previous marriage at the end.
God bless.
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If you are intending sending him money, place it in a letterbomb.
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