Stay or leave?

Having a relationship with an ideal one...but he's too perfect that I found gradually I become his shadow that I can't find myself...What should I do,just stay or leave for a while to breathe?


Thanks in advance...

Before this relationship with Mr. Perfect, were you a confident and self-assured woman who knows what she wants? If so, what makes you feel like a shadow of your former self now?


I suggest that you sit down and talk with your man and discuss your issues. Is he aware of what you're feeling?


Another suggestion is to go on a vacation alone or with your best female friend, and assess what you truly want out of this relationship. And enjoy the time to find yourself again.

arent we all!!


back to the question at hand though, I think that whenever you first find yourself in a relationship its all too easy to wake up and realise that you are living in each others shadows, and that your identities are merging. thats life, love and the rest. I do, however, think that its important to establish your own life too, otherwise you get so far down the line and you dont know who you are anymore. its all too easy to do. If he's right for you, it'll iron itself out, as you trust one another and feel happy you'll naturally branch off on your own again and pursue other interests - its the way of the wordl! i guess too, it comes to down to the fact that if you're enjoying it stay in it, if not then you know what you have to do...