Posted by
doreen
18 yrs ago
I have been noticing a guy in the gym, we attend the same Bodypump class....how do I get him to notice me? Or talk to me? I am not ugly, and not dumb....I have seen him looking my way but so far, he has said nothing.
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Well, I did.....a small smile and he smiled back. That was it! Maybe he is not interested, which is why I haven't sent out all my green light signals.
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Thanks Chang - I am very sure he is NOT gay as I have my team of queens to check him out already.....as for married, he does not wear a wedding band. Call me old fashioned this way, but isn't that what guys and gals are supposed to wear to show that they are not available?
Aspect, green signals are nothing slutty......just being extra friendly, maybe wear something really nice (even to the gym) that shows myself to the greatest advantage, giving more than the occassional glances to show that I am interested, and having an open body language towards him. AND then if he is responding to all this but still too shy to do anything, I might ask if he wants to have a coffee after the wokout. Usually, they will ask me for the coffee by this time...
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Sorry....the Green Signals were meant to electrode, not aspect....
And Aspect, no I am definitely not the sea of lard and will be the one that stands out. Don't mean to sound conceited.....
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HI everyone - thanks for the support. I think I will take a wait and see approach at this point...I like to be the one who is chased, not the one doing the chasing.
Will also take Twotails advice on board and take more notice to those who are attentive to my smiles.....
BTW, I work out in California Fitness Central. See you all there maybe! I have read lots of bad feedback about this gym, but I like the energy and it suits my personality!
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Electrode,
Are you saying there are no faithful men in HK? And here I was hoping to find one...
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on not talking in the gym, i second it. there's something about working out that makes it a private affair. maybe it's probably one of those only time in the day where all your attention is devoted to yourself.
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i forgot to mention that a close friend of mine met her husband-to-be at the gym (although he did approach her first). so there's hope!
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vibe
18 yrs ago
Doreen,
I do think you need to be more proactive about how you approach this guy. Ordinarily, guys are apprehensive approaching women in the gym simply because they do not want to bother them during their workout -- just as they would not want to be bothered themselves. It's correct etiquette.
When you say you are sending him buying signals, what signals are these? He won't assume you're dressing up for him. When you smile at him, does he hold your look, or look away? What does "being extra friendly" mean?
The good news is that this is a class so you know when his workout is going to be over so you can strike up a conversation then. You don't have to ask him out, just introduce yourself and be conducive to small talk. See how he responds and whether he approaches you next time. That said, if you get the right signals from him, don't hesitate to ask him if he'd like to grab a smoothie or health shake after you both shower up. Go up to Mix on Hollywood Road, or Kosmo on D'Aguilar St -- let him see you in a context outside of the gym.
You can't complain a guy won't approach you when you refuse to approach him!
Good luck!
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The gym instructors are a wealth of information. They know whether someone is attached or interested in another person at the gym (well, most of the time!)
Many moons ago when I went to gym regularly, there was this resident eye candy, two time Man Hunt winner in my gym. No one in my gym speaks to anyone else. But I have been 'approached' before by some daring 'kids' (i.e I could tell they were younger than me but they couldn't). Anyway, back to Mr Eye Candy, this guy never really indicated anything, much less noticed I was alive, till one day the gym instructor and I had a chat and he remarked that 'that' guy was interested to know you
Since I was seeing someone at that time, I didn't act on it. Not too long after that, I saw him in a bar with a girl.
So, you might want to know if he is attached first, instead of wasting your time trying to know how to get his attention. (befriend the gym instructors, get them to do the detective work for you)
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mpl don't you hear her that she only wants to be chased ! yet she can't handle it that the guy doesn't find her attractive enough to chase.. pathetic. period.
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Please cue me in-what are westerner-Group X instructors???
Anyway, in response to your question Raincatcher, my gym was a medium sized one, so the gym instructors also serve as personal instructors. How do they 'know'? Err.. cordial conversation??Not sure about HK but in Singapore the staff at gyms are quite friendly.
Anyway, with all due respect-this thread is starting to take a mean turn. Lets NOT assume that Doreen is an ugly HK girl trying to throw herself at a western man.
If you must have a space to vent, why not start a new thread entitled "Why ugly HK girls throw themselves at Western instructors" and leave this one alone.
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I agreed with Twotails32 and I like your joke.
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