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Hey mpl... that is some decent advice...


good show...

I think you should go to a GP first and discuss your symptoms, so as to establish whether you currently suffer from what they call "clinical depression". This may require the use of antidepressants.


Also, he can then point you towards a professional, depending on his findings, be it a psychiatrist or a psychologist.


I think it is very healthy that you want to talk about your past issues, and sometimes depression can be the opportunity for this.


All the best.

U people are sounding like Never's grandmum...

Common.. this is not the end... life is beautiful and to be lived... cheer up... I have a friend who's been through this and much more worse... but she has moved in life.. you also need to move on... it would be tough but nothing is easy!!!


So get going... enjoy life.... you just get one to live it...

What I meant by going to the GP (thanks mpl) is to assess whether the is the onset of a depressive episode that may require treatment. Then, depending on this (amongst depressive symptoms, you'll find low mood, low energy, loss of interest, loss of libido, inability to enjoy, tearfulness, poor sleep, early morning wakening, poor appetite, loss of weight, poor self esteem and confidence, suicidal ideation, negative views of oneself, others and the world.......not necessarily all, but some on-going factor too). Sometimes this can be serious and here we don't know enough from Never to dismiss the possiblity of such an event.


In my opinion, though, the whole thing is possibly more related to the trauma of the childhood abuse (these have long lasting consequences), even if triggered on by a break up, so of course, I would definitely recommend that this would looked into seriously, in the longer term, through proper therapeutic work.


It may be that the GP doesn't feel at ease in prescribing the right medication (IF medication seems in order and after discussing with Never and see what she'd prefer), and therefore a referral to a psychiatrist, who can prescribe. This doesn't exculde the need for talking therapy too. They'd play different roles here.


If only talking through therapy is needed, then either a psychiatrist who specialised in psychotherapy , or a psychotherapist from a different background eg a psychologist, are qualified for this.


But with so little information, let's not neglect the possibility of the seriousness of a depressive illness. This occurs whenever and for whatever reasons. The break-up as such is not that relevant in the end.

Oh, and just to explain why a depressive episode is so prominent in my mind (in this particular case):

-Break up was ok (doesn't dwell on the break up fact at all)

-In a new relationship (would expect her to be rather happy at that stage, exciting start of a new relationship)

-the extremely significant mention of childhood abuse (otherwise, seems totally irrelevant to the current break up story)

-"BUT" very depressed, crying every night, very down (has not related it to the break-up)


It's only my view.

Never, you say you feel confused, and it certainly seems so.


If I were you, after this good first move in expressing your needs here on the forum, I'd move on to a more professional type of help.


It sounds like there's a lot going on, old and recent stuff, and some of it might even still be outside of your awareness.


In any case, you will get here lots of well intended advice, but with conflicted points of view, and I'm not sure this will be very helpful to sort out whatever the root of your problem(s) is (are).


My opinion is that you need something more focused and structured, and a thorough exploration, that is if you feel ready, knowing that things usually get worse (more painful) before they get better, with therapeutic work.


Here, we'll only know about your story little bit by little bit, we'll surely miss lots of important stuff, and we're at risk of creating more confusion still. This wouldn't be constructive for you, I feel.


Personnally, I don't feel like giving more advice than that to you.


I sincerely wish you all the very best. Child abuse is amongst the worst things that can ever be done to someone.