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uoaini
18 yrs ago
What to do when the person you're attracted and in love to is someone that feels the same way you do, but leaves at 2 hours of flight and doesn't want to commit to someone that lives in another city and not sharing the same culture?
What if he is in this position where he can't choose if to stop looking for you or finally commit?
What if he can't stay without you, but he keep looking for someone else that will never fulfil his needing?
What if he is just scared of something that can change his life forever?
Frustration and resistence over letting go?
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I don't think you can speculate about him. Is this what YOU want long-term or are you willing to gamble that there is better out there?
He can choose. He's choosing not to choose. You choose.
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I don't want to think that all men are liers...
I want to give them some credit sometimes!
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hey girls. Let's be fair. Not all guys are cheaters. And, not all girls are saints.
I am sure that at some stage of your life, you've come across with somebody that he wants to settle down with you but you are not too sure?
My advice (if am qualified :) to Uoaini is: enjoy the relationship when you can. Follow your heart. He might change his mind with your relationship progresses. When you are too fed up, make your choice. Good luck.
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Thank you csun and chat noir I think you're a bit too negative with your explanation...it is not every time black or white, sometimes it can really be grey and it is because of what it doesn't say, but do that let me think it is this way....is the reason why in my thread I wrote "What if...".
It is the way he threat me that let me think that we're still there and he doesn't know what he wants because of those reasons...
I still need the advise:
frustration and resistence or letting go?
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hkkm
18 yrs ago
Why do you expect him to move to be with you? If the problem is that you live 2 hours flight apart, what about you going to be with him? Are you prepared to make that commitment? If the answer is "no", then how do you expect him to?
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I think you should choose to live your own life. If he really wants you as a life partner, he will find a way to make that work.
If he can't find a way to make it worth, there are two options: 1. He's not that into (sorry to be cliche) ro 2. He's not clever enough to figure out a way.
You said, "doesn't want to commit to someone that lives in another city and not sharing the same culture". So, it sounds like option 1 is the issue.
What scares you most about letting him go? Are you afraid you'll never find anyone better? In my mind, love is both a feeling AND a decision. He's not deciding to be with you. That sounds harsh, but I think you'll be much better off with someone who is willing to make the tough choices.
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