Does relationship have to be "everlasting"?

Raincatcher, my grasshopper


1) No relationship is everlasting, be it a "respected" or a morally "unaccepted" one. That is something all women have to learn to accept. My mom once said to me when i asked her why it seems like she still doesnt trust my dad after a 30 year marriage. She said in her VERY Chinese way " A spouse is never totally yours till the day he/she dies in your arms"

It is NEVER everlasting but that doesnt mean we shut ourselves down and not try... who knows even after getting your heart broken on several occasions, you just might get it right next time... fingers crossed


2) It is all about perception. What is the Chinese way? To meekly walk alongside the man, pretend like your IQ is less than 2 digits and have no opinion other than of the weather. It is a little too late for that now especially when Chinese girls are just as educated and in alot of cases more capable than the men. If we look for acceptance by the Chinese society then we should have done the real Chinese thing by SAVING THE MONEY, just stayed at home and remained stupid.


I believe We need to keep our roots and traditions but we need to re evaluate the values before we adopt them as our own. Times have changed, we do not have the luxury of being like our mothers to wait at home to be married and be taken care of.


I am sure Confucious would have said it at some point of time it is better to be wise not gullible


:-)

"Ps: IMHO, a lot of those Taiwan born and raised Taiwanese are overly judgemental and criticizing without ever reflecting on their own behaviour!"


I'd like to point out that this phenomenon is not limited to Taiwan born Chinese!


Too few people these days in general live by the Golden Rule, and there are too many hypocrites, from ALL cultures.


PEOPLE!!!! REFLECT ON YOURSELF BEFORE YOU JUDGE OTHERS!!!!


That's all I'm sayin'.

Hey Raincatcher, if you don't like some of your aquaintances, don't have anything to do with them (exclude them from your parties and don't go for their dinners etc etc). This is the strategy I've adoped and working well.


Am currently in Taipei for business trip. I've actually met with some very open-minded Taiwanese women (all locally educated). So, nothing wrong with Taiwanese women. I have some western acquaintances who are very judgemental as well.


I like your attitude towards relationship. It's very mature. Stick to your value and you'll be fine. Don't let others' opinion affect your own judegement. Cheers.