am I being insecure???



ORIGINAL POST
Posted by Mary J 18 yrs ago
This is really a private problem. My bf and I have been together for over 2 years now, we love each other and care for each other very much. Recently I feel that our sex is not as good as before, I have the feelings that he's not attracted by me in bed as before, I feel that he has got some desire for other woman, I don't know who that is and I don't have any clue, maybe this is just my imagination, because I know all his contacts and schedules, don't question his personality, he's a great guy and I believe that he wouldn't cheat on me, but I really have that feelings, I don't know what to do, I talked to him about it, he said it's not true but I think he just wanted to be sweet and preferred not to tell me the truth, I can't just let it go, I want a man who 100% wants me, am I being crazy? we are planning our future together, it's gonna be a long run too, what if he wants to have some meaningless sex with somebody else but who he really cares for is me? I'm so confused, so I let it go?

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COMMENTS
Mary J 18 yrs ago
My bf is a very special guy, he's very pure and innocent inside, after being together this long I know him quite well, he wouldnt cheat. but he's very hot too, everytime we went to the bar or hang out somewhere I was almost sure he could get any girl whos single if he wanted, so it's full of temptation, I can not say that he didn't think it was tempting, he just didn't take any action, this makes me jealous too, sh*t, I don't want him to want the other woman, I even thought about getting a boob job, I have nice boobs but I always get the idea guys like big boobs. I think I'm going crazy.

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MC 18 yrs ago
All men are drawn to attractive women and they all would "do it" when given the chance. That is a fact and accept it. The ones who don't don't because they are afraid of losing what they have. That is the only difference between them and the rest. So just make sure that he is afraid of losing you.

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Mary J 18 yrs ago
Why the hell that men could separate sex and emotion? remember that women's revenge could be the worst thing in the world.

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the_poor_man 18 yrs ago
I look down on anyone who seeks revenge, no matter what the other person did. Shame on you.

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csun008 18 yrs ago
Hey girls, it's no good to be bitchy or bitter. Let's be fair about men. They are INDEED different from us. However, not all of them are cheaters. Don't hold grudges. Move on and stay cheerful!!!

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bits&pieces 18 yrs ago
Mary, with all due respect...I think that you have your panties in a bunch over absolutely nothing!


You have said that you have no reason to think that he is cheating on you. The only thing that puts this worry into your head is that the sex is not as hot as it was. Well, honey that happens to every relationship. In the beginning it's all sex, all of the time. This mellows with time and I for one think that is a good thing. It allows us to explore and strengthen the other aspects of the relationship. While sex is a very important part of a committed relationship is not the only important part of one.


Stop focusing on only one aspect of your relationship and look at the whole picture. How are things with the two of you outside of the bedroom? Are you affectionate with one another, do you laugh together, do you understand each other, do you share common interests and goals, do you provide emotional support for one another?


If the relationship is a good one then there are heaps of things you and your partner can do to ignite the spark between the sheets but if the relationship is not then nothing your do will matter much in the long run.


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Mary J 18 yrs ago
I guess I was overreacting, things are fine I was just too sensitive and paranoid, if this is how the relationship like, I could handle that no pro. Thank you for all your advice.


Cheers!

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Mary J 18 yrs ago
I won't. Just curious, I heard some news talking about 90% of the women in HK did or intend to have their boobs done, what do you guys think about it? do you have fake boobs touching experience? how did it feel like, and how about the look?

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happydays 18 yrs ago
Hi Mary J, where did you read that news? It's ridiculous and exaggerated. 90%?? no way! I have been living in HK for over 20 years and know many girls here but none of them has ever thought of having any plastic surgery to enlarge their breasts.


Agree with rititt, a girl comes with a whole package that includes her personality, knowledge and other part of the body. Don’t just focus on one single part as we will not able to be divided into different parts physically. Be realistic and I don’t hope your news message will make some people have the false impression that we local girls are so superficial and in-confident about ourselves.


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travelinteacher 18 yrs ago
Hmmm...I've always had the theory that there are four types of men:

1. Men who look at faces

2. Men who look at posteriors

3. Men who look at boobs

4. Men who are drunk and can't quite make out which is which.


Truth: large boobs (natural or otherwise) lead to large chiropractic bills.

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Missysun 18 yrs ago
I agreed with happydays..people always said hong kong girls have small boobs,if 90% of them had their boobs done,where are those small boobs girls?

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Mary J 18 yrs ago
Hey, I watched that news on PEARL, 90% of the HK girls either want their boobs bigger or already had their boobs bigger, they are just not happy with their boobs, I was shocked when I heard that too. rititt, my bf told me exact the same thing as what you said above.

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Madizon.dm 18 yrs ago
If he lose interest in you in bed doesnt mean that he cease to love you. If your gut tells you that he's fine then most likely he is.

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ahacha 18 yrs ago
TT, you gave me a giggle!


Also, interestingly, an ex boyfriend of mine used to divide men into only 2 categories (simplistic or what): the "bottom" guys, and the "breasts" guys.


And he had some notions of his about what type of personality these different guys had, according to their preferences on the matter, etc...


Wonder what guys here would think of these "theories"...?


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rainbow0207 18 yrs ago
let me say something wild, women worry about the size of their boobs just like men worry about the size of their dicks?

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bits&pieces 18 yrs ago
TT and ahacha, lord I have missed you two! No matter what the powers that be say, you both add much needed color and depth to this forum.

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notmeok 18 yrs ago
I once read an article about a detective agency. It said in Hong Kong, if a man hires an investigator to see if his wife is having an affair, most times, the man is wrong and the woman is hanging out with other women playing Mah Jong. The same article said that 95% of the time when women hire a detective, they find something. Men don't seem to teach hou about that.

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Druzzil 18 yrs ago
Do NOT make your boobs bigger

yes it is true some men only attracts by girls with big boobs, same as some girls only want a man with a realy big "tool"

for those few % of people that is really matters, for most it dont. it is more problem for the person who think her boobs / his "snake" is too small than the person who actually gonna use it.

to admit big boobs are more fun to look at and play with, but I would never pick a stupid big beasted bitch, every day of the year I would much rather pick a smallbrested chearful and funny girl with a brain


again, not all men only think with his small head

most men are loyal and honest, not chasce every

girl he sees.




as someone already said, no one like being false accused of doing bad thing he not done, drop it leave it is the best, men really hate bring up old stuff over and over. if my GF tell me I cheat every time I met her I would more likely look for other girl and do as she accuse me for

(well, really I would not), but I would for sure not be happy around her with all her suspius


I notice you said everything is fine now, very glad to hear.



to all girls out there, YOUR boobs are great as they are, love em all...=)

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