Pls give some advice on this LDR....thx

This is my first time to have a LDR. I couldnt imagine how it would like b4 and i m kind of scared.


I met him in his country and we stayed together for 2 days. Of coz we had a great time and i fell in love with him. That's y i decided to try to hv a LDR with him as he also promised he would try his best to keep this relationship by sending me mail, chatting to me, sms and calls.


But now i am back to HK for almost 2 weeks. I dunt always hv the chance to chat with him on msn coz of the time difference (he is in europe). But when we chat, he is still sweet to me.Then I sent him email, sometimes i hv to wait for up to 2 days for his reply, no matter a long or short one. Also, there are no sms and calls from him so far. And he never asked my address in HK.


He said he was busy. But i think it is just an excuse. It doesnt really take much time to send me a sms or give me a call. May be just once or twice a week....


I want to keep this relationship but at the same time i feel frustrated. I have to control my emotion so that i wont go crazy.


I want to tell him how i feel abt all those things, and see if he would do a bit more. However, if i tell him what to do, then it will become meaningless as it is just like an order from me.


Is there any other method to deal with this situation? another way to talk to him? wait longer?

Or i should just break up with him? i think of it too...but i am afraid i cant do it at this moment..

no need to forget about those two days u spend with him, they were nice and u were happy, but LDR are hard itself and it seems u two didnt have much time together and it makes things harder... dont need to decide anything now... its hard but try not to think about him much, do your things and time will show...

Good luck!

Do your own thing and be patient. It's tough but just be patient, girl.

thx for all the replies and supports...


i got the sms from him on sat afternoon and i have to wait till tue afternoon to get his 2nd sms...saying " I MISS YOU"...i have no idea of how he spent his weekend and what he was doing...

Two days is really short...., of course I have no idea what you did in those two days, but a LDR does need a lot of maintenance and you really have to be up to it. Like said above it does require a lot of effort. If you think you are up for it go for it, but if you have the slightest doubt, leave it coz its really not worth the trouble and why let all the other opportunities in your direct environment just lie there for something so unsure as a guy you only knew two days???

driffer, perhaps you should get yourself focus on your own things and fill up the time rather than thinking how he spends his day ! You have your life here and really, 2 days with him is nothing !While you are spending thousand minutes of day thinking of him, he may or may not spend even 1 minute thinking of you, or may be, so generous, that he could spend one minute to send you the text "I miss you". You have your life here too. So do not let yourself tie up with these 2 days relationship.