Posted by
shoes1709
18 yrs ago
My ex boyfriend and i were together for slightly more than half a year. Two months ago, we broke up but patched up after one day. Shortly after, he suggested that we break up although we've still been seeing each other. Two weeks ago, he had to go to another city to work for a couple of weeks and asked me to join him . I did and now, things are back to pre- break up, arguments etc.I dont know anyone in this city.I know he's here for work and need to entertain customers but i do feel lonely. He will get upset if i entertain any thoughts about going out at night without him(He thinks im going to shag someone).I wish ive got a friend here so i can have fun partying. I'm not bothered about getting back with him, im young. I'm determined to have a great time with him and enjoy the city. What should i do to turn the situation around?
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wow sounds a bit like my bf! where are u, shoe?
i suggest you just do your thing, u may fight but he will get over it..just come home before he arrives!!
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Go shag someone! You have that right. If that's not what you want to do, go out and let him think what he wants to think. He can't string you along like this, and it sounds like you never should have agreed to this trip.
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Thoughts of getting a flight home has crossed my mind but i can't bear to do that. Anyway, i've just found out im staying 5 mins from Rappongi and i have a club in mind! Thanks. I guess what i really needed was to let someone know i'm in a bad situation. Have any girls experienced that? Being in a foreign country with your boyfriend and feeling lonely?
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Ed
18 yrs ago
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I'm past the stage where i go shag someone to make me feel better about myself.I dont care if the relationship is going to work. I just want the both of us to have a good time in Tokyo. I mean since im here, i want to make the best of the situation. Do u not agree? Or should i just stay lonely and upset and feel horrible?
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i don't think The Poor Man's comment was so constructive Ed.
To 'go shag someone' is incitement to failure of the relatoinship. It may already appear to be on a downward slide but it is for the two of them to decide, after a candid chit chat, what the next steps are. The next step may be to go shag someone else but only after the relationship is over.
Call me old fashioned but fidelity is a wonderful thing, particularly in the shakey moments of a relationship; it shows character.
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Salubrious, it's not a relationship. This is an "ex-boyfriend", not a boyfriend. I wouldn't have offered the same advice if he were her boyfriend.
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oK. Yeah good. I stand corrected tpm. I must have got all emotionally involved for a moment there and missed a very important point.
Shag your heart out baby!
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Thank you everyone for the support. Anyway, i did not shag anyone that night. He came home to find my note that i was out in Rappongi and came to find me. Last night, he told me he loved me for the first time and i didnt say anything. I'm glad that i went out. I guess he realized then that i could have fun and be independent without him.
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Wow! This sounds good... If you have serious feelings for him and want to give it another try I hope it works out for you. But... keep in mind, he seems to be a bit undependable about his feelings for you, so you might want to be extremely careful this third time around.
I had a similar experience with an ex. She was really taking me for granted. One night I went out just to make her understand that I wasn't simply waiting for her. All of a sudden she was jealous, asking if I met any girls, and she was all loving... until a week or two later when she started taking me for granted again...
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That is so like him too! I'm still tryring to figure out what i want from him and what he wants from me.
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