Posted by
labaran3
18 yrs ago
i trust my girlfriend more than anyone but 2 days ago i found out my girl have been cheating on me for the past 4 month, and we have been together for 3yrs now, so just because of that i choose to give her a second chance but i still keep picturing her having sex with the other guy. please i really dont know what to do...
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Oh geez...how can you stand such betrayal? If I were you , I would break up with her when she disappointed me the second time.
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People cheat when their relationship is not good. If it were all good and nothing was missing she wouldnt have felt the need to stray.
You may have thought it was all hunky dory but obviously she didnt and instead of telling you she looked for what was missing somewhere else.
SOOOooo. If you dont want to make real relationship changes, ie more time and attention for her or more romance etc. Then cut that green hat tossing bitch out of your life like a cancer.
If you give her another chance, guilt might keep her home for a while but if you two go back to having the same relationship you had before the inproprieties then she will still be feeling that something is missing.
Dont take that as me saying its your fault, I dont mean that at all (it might be that nobody anywhere would make her happy), but just that people in a happy relationship that makes them feel like they have everything they need DONT look to other outside people for sexual gratification.
My thoughts? Dump her before you get stuck in any deeper with her. At least you didnt marry her or have kids. Then it would really be hard.
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get rid of her - its the only way. Its hard, but not as hard as living with the pain. Plus, you will never trust her again , so why put yourself through it ? call her bluff, and kick her out. She deserves it
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Speaking from experience, the scar will always be there. You could probably forgive, but I doubt you could forget - even if you broke up with her and dated someone else.
I'm not sure how many people would cheat once and then stop completely for the rest of their lives.
Good luck.
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I agree.
I tried to forgive when that happened to me but I could not. It was too painful to know that the one you love betrayed you. What's more it was a conscious action! You deserve better.
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If you give her the second chance, you will be cheated for the second time. Is that what you want?
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alk
18 yrs ago
Say goodbye to your sweetheart... or is she... still?
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labaran..
I feel for you.. I'm also currently in a crisis of my own.
I asked myself 3 questions:-
1) Do I still love her?
2) Does she still love me?
3) What're the most important things in the relationship?
Answering #1 was the easiest (but not easy).
#2 was tougher esp. but you'll know the answer if both were committed to the relationship from the start.
The last one is not so easy.. for me.
Stay on, or move on. Well, you have to decide.
Look, probably this is not yr first break-up.. maybe this one hurts real bad.. but time heals..
All the best.
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Again, speaking from experience - she may still love you a lot, but she may love herself more.
That could probably explain why she chose to hurt you in order to get herself pleasure.
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