More to "how do ppl find bf/gf?" - Ok I found a 'target'!



ORIGINAL POST
Posted by StarryStarryOne 18 yrs ago
Some time after I posted the previous thread on "How do people find bf/gf", I met someone at the health club I go to. (hooray!)


He's always checking me out, that's how I noticed him, and found that he's pretty cute.

He seemed a bit shy, and Ladies and Gentleman, I did make the first move to say hello!


We exchanged names, and chatted for just a bit. Since then, we say hi when we see each other, and he continues to check me out every time he sees me.

And that's about it!!!


I can tell he's too shy to make the next move, but hello? I can't be forever taking the initiatives. Maybe he's already got a gf?


If he's single, what should I do next?

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COMMENTS
Sasquatch 18 yrs ago
WTF? Didnt you read everything we posted?

Ask him out already!


Hopefully he will let you know if hes taken.


Im always hungry after I work out, just walk up to him and say "Hey, wanna go grab a bite?"


just keep nudging him until he gets it. Maybe he thinks yr out of his league and once he knows you wont shoot him down he will take the hint and go with it.

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balzac 18 yrs ago
Hooray!


But there is a chance he's attached. Set things straight from the start and ask him (with big smile) a question, something with pretty obvious intent (lightly concealed intent) like "is your other half a member of this club as well?'


Once you've settled that, you've got a clear runway ahead (I hope!)

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StarryStarryOne 18 yrs ago
Haha, yes I did read all the postings, no worries!


I'm about to say something that will make you want to slap me in the face.

In fact, I think he's attracted to me more than I'm attracted to him. I didn't even pay attention to him in the beginning.


But hey, maybe he's attached so he hasn't even asked my number? I do feel that he's quite shy though.


No I don't think I'll ask him out just like that. I'll see him at the club for as long as he goes there, I do not want to embarrass myself....

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hypergirl 18 yrs ago
Starry Starry One, I admired your courage to walk over and say hello to him. It's good enough for a girl to make a move like that.


I didn't even have courage to do that last night. But my friends run back to the pub and passed my card to him, who was playing darts. Should I hope that there will be another chance to see him?


*sigh* how dumb and school-girl-act that I was!

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hypergirl 18 yrs ago
Thanks LMOPQ


My situation was a bit diff. He was with a group of his mates in a pub at LKF. We just stared at each other a few times I think. I was a bit shy I reckon and so did he. I think he walked out to look at me when my friends gave him my card but i was talking to friends over the phone and missed to say hi to him.


I suggested to go to another sports pub after late dinner and my friends said that they saw him again but I was walking away cuz embarrassing ...and would he think that we're those psycho following him? gosh...


Knowing shouldn't expect him to call. First of all, the business card he has is not valid anymore and i doubt that he will call or even just text my mobile ...eh...what a loser I am!

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StarryStarryOne 18 yrs ago
Usually I wouldn't do this. But this guy has been checking me out since the first time he saw me, plus he seemed quite shy.


That day, when he walked pass looking at me, I just casually said hi. He came over to talk to me right away.

Besides, the health club is a place I'm familiar with, and I've seen him many times before I hi'ed him.


I do not blame you for not having the guts to talk to the guy in LKF, I would have just left disappointedly if I were you.

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hypergirl 18 yrs ago
lmao

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balzac 18 yrs ago
This is StarryOne's thread. Perhaps you'd like to discuss your newfound love in a new thread, LMOPQ?

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StarryStarryOne 18 yrs ago
Holy apple pie !

We've talked a bit more, but he's not very good at making conversations. There were silent moments.

Only improvement is, he comes to say hello every time he sees me, just that he's still nervous.

I've seen him talk to other people, he's not like that at all!


There's only so much I can do ...

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Pupalicious 18 yrs ago
Aw, Starry, when you make a guy nervous, that's when you know he really likes you!


If I think I'll be nervous, I go for a drink. Ask him to meet you in a bar, maybe. The alcohol will help him relax and you can talk. I'd suggest a quiet bar, though.


And ladies, shall we try to remember that this is the modern world, and men aren't expected to fuel the conversations all the time. I know it's difficult with a one sided conversation, my little brother appears to be only capable of monosyllabic grunts! But it can be done! Find out what gets him excited and talk thim about that.


When I first started dating my boyfriend, I found it hard to talk to him about things, and I got nervous. He'd watch me chattering away with his friends and he'd get really jealous. Then we discovered he liked the same computer games and manga cartoons as me, and the common ground gave us something to chat about!


Hope this helps!

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StarryStarryOne 18 yrs ago
Oh the first time we sat down to chat, I thought the conversation was flowing not bad, and then he just stopped, I had to find something to fill the "gaps".


I wouldn't mind fueling the conversations, I guess the stupid me is still trying to find out if he's actually interested in me. I don't want to act like I'm all over him.

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