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45828s
18 yrs ago
Do you really believe it? should we hide our feelings? when I am in love, i just want to baby talk and cuddle with him. Am I stepping in the wrong direction?
Should I not tell him that I miss him when he's away on biz trip?
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Maybe I should be mean to my boyfriend and see if he becomes lean? Not too lean. He looks like he's pregnant right now, 6 months!
Why wouldn't you tell him you miss him when he's on his business trip? Sounds perfectly normal to me. My fella was in the states for a week (poor him) and when he called I told him I missed him. I didn't say, 'I miss you, how could you leave me? We should spend every second together'. I told him I was looking forward to seeing him again, and other kinky stuff I won't repeat.
It's normal right?
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tia
18 yrs ago
Mine's lean enough, thanks. Any leaner, he'll bloody disappear!!! :P
I've wondered about this too. Mine being LDR 90% of the year, I wonder if I should admit how much I miss him at times. But I figure, stuff it. I miss him. I don't get all maudlin, as Pupalicious says, and whine about why he is not with me but I do admit that I wish he were closer and that I could see/touch him.
You might want to be careful of being too lovey at the beginning, as it may scare some people off. I don't see anything wrong with letting your sigot know that you love/miss them. Otherwise, they may think you DON'T care and that could lead to cheating and other bad behaviour.
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I'm speachless (for a change) !
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hi 45828s, i'm just going to paste in here some words of wisdom from other long-ago posters from these very threads:
"Test him/her. Control your emotions without being too cold, be open-minded and generous without being blind. That's a subtle c*cktail that one needs to practice regularly if one wants to avoid wasting too much time on the wrong target."
"Slower is better.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted."
i think it's all about balance...by all means tell him how you feel, but don't overdo it, and stay alert for signs from him to determine if those feelings are mutual or not.
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...and about the baby-talk? DON'T do it, unless he starts it first!
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Yeah, voice, what's with the games playing advice? When I felt like I loved my boyfriend, I told him. I was the first one to say it, he didn't say it back to me straight away, but that's cool. Everyone takes their own time to say things. I think that if you feel it, you should say it.
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selda
18 yrs ago
as long as you avoid smothering your partner...and saying 'i love you' like a 7/Eleven robot-cashier says 'welcome', you'll be fine. Being mean is not a very effective strategy, unless you are a dominatrix with a whip, and your partner likes to be abused.
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Depends what stage your relationship is at..if you're dating for 2 weeks, too much cuddling and baby talk will probably put him off. Don't know a lot of guys who enjoy that..
JC--
I'm like your mom, I always, always say and kiss my husband goodbye and goodnight (even if I'm mad at him) coz like what your mom says, you'll never know if it's the last time..
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i told him that I kind of miss him. he didn't say it back to me.
He said he needs some space and just want to be home tonight. Good thing that his ALONE time includes me... :)
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To quote him "I've been around with too many stupid people for the last 2 days. No restaurant or going out, because I am in an anti-social mood. I just want to watch DVD and eat junk food at your place tonight."
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Awwww... eating takeaway and watching DVD's is soooo great. ANd it's so romantic and happy.
Eh, so he didn't say it back. Maybe he didn't miss you, guys are like that sometimes. It doesn't mean he didn't care. When my bf went on his business trip, luckily he's learnt that he has to say he misses me to make me happy, but I think he was too busy to actually miss me.
I think missing someone is when you feel a bit sad in your heart cos your significant person is so far away. Sometimes people are so independant they just don't feel like that, but they still care about you. Maybe your guy is like that?
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I wasn't even sure if I sould say it or not...been seeing each other for 7 months, but thing were getting more intese lately. we've been spending almost everyday together since Xmas. and i don't know how to react to that
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It's 'keen' hunny. There are very helpful books called Dictionaries to help with spelling.
Why would you want to be with someone you always have to second guess? If you can't be completely natural and just be yourself with your bed partner, then why be with them?
I mean, one day we're going to get sick, maybe a stomach bug, and you're going to look awful and crap and sick, and he's going to see you like that. If you can't say what you want to him, how on earth is going to react further down the line when you get sick?
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I guess I am just insecure when it comes to relationship, and not a great communicator...divorced parent, boarding school, single child, stuck up relatives...
Have learned to keep quiet since childhood, but hasn't learned when and how to express my feeling properly
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once u had sex with men, i dun see how u possibly can "Treat them mean, keep them Keen".
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tia
18 yrs ago
You can have sex with someone you are not keen on. After sex, they might be more keen than you are.
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