Who to choose?

Well, this is my story.


I met 2 guys, the 1st one i met online and we started sending emails and SMS. The 2nd one i met him at a friend's birthday. On the night of my friend's party, I started chatting with the people, Who i didn't know except the bday gal, a guy came and started chatting and we started playing "bar games". I got drunk that night,he looked after me and tooked me home (my place). We got together after that night and have been together for 3 weeks now. About being with him for about 3-4days, i met the online guy for the 1st time. Nothing happened, i thought of us as just friends. We would talk and the phone and SMS daily, which i rarely do with my guy. Now, the online guy has told me he likes and misses me alot, though he knows i have a BF. I have strong feelings for him too, stronger than i have for my BF. I know this isn't good and not fair to him but i just can't stop thinking about the other guy. I've been thinking that if i wasnt drunk that night, i might not have started with my BF, or maybe not started so soon. I have only met him for 5-6hrs then we got together.


Now, i'm with my BF yet, i can't stop thinking about the other. I miss and think about him more than my guy. But my BF is a very very great guy and there's no way why i should give him up. I know i'm greedy... but i just dun want to lose him for someone who I might just have lust for. I really can't think straight about who i like more. I really dunno if it's lust or love for them.......

Hey jwm, well actually i haven't slept with either one. the reason why my guys is a good is coz my friend has told me how he is. Also, i was drunk as that night and he didnt do anything he should that night. i know he is a "pure" guy. i guess that's why i dun wanna give up yet. i always think that i have chosen this guy, i should one have him. i've never thought i could have 2 guys in my heart at the same time. i know the feeling of being chaeted coz i've gone thrught that be4. i dun want to go through again or do that to the one i love. it's just that i still can't feel the strong feeling for my guy. i dun miss him..

It's ok. No prb. WHen i was reading ur message, i know the answer would come up. and i know deep inside who it is, but i'm not sure if it's right, just scared it's lust. it's something what i want now, but maybe it's wrong....

Mmm.. is your boyfriend really a boyfriend? Have you both sat down and said, 'we're not going to see anyone else'? Because, if not, why not see both of them until you're sure of your feelings.


When I first got together with my boyfriend, I was dating a couple other guys at the same time. The couple other guys changed every week, but my boyfriend was the one I cancelled other dates to see, and he was the one who would always make me smile when I got an SMS from him, and he was the one who asked me to be exclusive. We've been going strong for 4 yrs now, and I'm really glad I did things that way because now I know he really really is The One for me.

Online love not my cup of vino especially meeting some guy online and bang he's your boyfriend.Online you get to know each other sure but it's not the same as the real world.

If you think it's love better meet him in the meantime he could be playing you,I have lots of friends who chat online to complete strangers and descibe those people as their bf or gf but it rarely works out in real life.

I would keep the internet guy as a friend and concentrate on developing a deeper relationship with your bf if that's what you want.Pining for internet lovers is silly.Everybody shows their best side online.Good luck.

Agree with momo. The real person -- the one you met at a party -- has shown himself to be genuine and someone you can trust, and you met through a friend which is also hopefully a good recommendation in itself. The other person could be Prince Charming, or he could be a fake and a total loser, or worse. The other thing is . . . that you are comparing apples and oranges. One you know for real, the other (I suspect) you are mainly fantasizing about -- because you probably don't know the i-net person well enough to justify everything you are thinking. At this point, surely you and I both know people who personally have been burned (sometimes big time) by internet romances? Yah, sometimes it works out, but it is high risk.

why you don't let both to complete at the same time, based on totally fair base. You can let them know the presence of each other and tell you don't make any choice until either one can capture your heart. I think if they do love you, they would accept and wait for a while.. it also gives you much time to make your choice.. if both walk away, they are not the one you need...in LTR basis....

Hi everyone. Thanks for all your messages. I think I will just go with the flow. I'm not gonna rule anyone out yet i'm not gonna choose now. Just let it be and see how it turns out. Maybe the amn of my dream will come tomorrow. HAhaa

I'm not too sure if you are really ready for love. Lets say what if a 3rd guy comes along and you find yourself love him more then the other 2?