When away, how often should one call home?



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Posted by wired 18 yrs ago
This is just a fun thing.


My husband is away at the moment, 4 weeks in total and in 14 years this is the longest we have been apart. There is no stress here. I'm ok and so is he. So why is he not calling me 10 times a day just to say 'hello'? (OK, maybe just once a day). AND while he's on the phone why is he not saying things like "darling, I need you to be here, I just can't get through the days without you, my life is so empty...you are my life..."


This is dumb, but my question to you guys is when you or your partner go on a business trip, how often do you call each other?



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COMMENTS
selda 18 yrs ago
i would say once every two days is enough for me...it keeps me keen! Too often,...i would find it annoying.

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zionmainframe 18 yrs ago
One in the morning and one at night. Honestly you can never be too busy to make one phone call.

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ljj 18 yrs ago
Once or twice a day, but forget the weekends, as they seem to disappear into the ether.

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tia 18 yrs ago
I'm happy with a couple of messages during the day to let me know all is well. We're not to lovey-dovey on the phone/SMS either. Can be, at times, but usually, it's just daily "Hey, hope your day is going well."


I get a few more "I miss yous" perhaps because our marriage is long distance at the moment, so it's on our mind more.

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ceeh 18 yrs ago
We've been married 40 years (yes, forty but we don't feel that old) and usually call twice during the day for a quick hello and then longer at night when one of us is on a business trip.


No "I miss you" or "I need you nearby". We both work in the same industry so when on business trips we come cross people we both know so have more to talk about at night.

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cd 18 yrs ago
At least once a day, sometimes more depending on whether I need to ask him something, or one of the kids asks to talk to him.

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wired 18 yrs ago
Thanks for your imput here guys! :-) Ceeh, love your reply! (and yes I needed to re-read the first 5 words:)) We generally speak every 2 days but I do get funny little sms's in between. It's interesting how he doesn't feel comfortable chatting when he is with his/our friends and the other day he forced out an 'of course I love you'. Yikes! I advised him it sounded like he was talking to his mother....not nice I know....but got a gushing & georgous sms later that evening and although he was a little pissed, it was sweet.

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hypergirl 18 yrs ago
I'm single, yes again. My ex was very sweet I reckon, but for some intricate reasons, we're not together anymore. I think i still miss him at some point, particularly even he's in canada and i'm in hk, we used to talk and sms each other a few times a day. I think this whole thing just depends on what kind of person you and your partner are, so no norms :-)

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tigerbay 18 yrs ago
There are no norms (as Hypergirl said).


Just tell him you wished he would call more often as you miss him.


Have you tried telling him it is hard without him?

Or is the man supposed to 'just know'.

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wired 18 yrs ago
Tigerbay, it's not hard without him, I mean to say we are both individuals and quite secure with our relationship. I guess what started this off is my mother-in-law! She was asking how often he called me and was shocked when I said every couple of days....I guess she is only expressing her opinion and after 5 husbands, she's got lots to express!!!!!

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