Just keep busy....

Well, long and convoluted breakup with the father of my child (my newly ex husband) and miserable not because he was a wonderful man and I miss him (he was rather hideous to me, suffice to say he was constantly rude and disrespectful and sometimes violent), but because I feel sad for my little one that she doesnt have a normal family life. Yeah - heard it all - better out of a violent home than in one, needs a good eg in front of her for her own self esteem, etc, etc... I guess it was a waste of my time (eight years). I have a wonderful child whom I wouldnt trade for the world but I cant help feeling flat. Friends say "keep busy"... What? Polish silver? It just doesnt seem to fill the void. There shouldnt really be one - we split a year ago. Maybe it's the anniversary blues.. Need to add that I see him regularly because of the little one and he is always either so down, rude, disrespectful, angry or plain indifferent. There is never any joy in seeing us - like it's a chore and duty. Dont expect cartwheels, but he is such a miserable sad sack that I cant help but be dragged into his black hole. Any suggestions my fellow xpats?

Detach yourself from him. I know it's hard, but I believe he's dragged you down enough as he drowns, you should consider being good to yourself.


It's his choice whether to come out of the black hole, apparently he's not doing it for you, for your child, or himself.


You lead different lives now, you have to stay strong and positive for yourself and your child. You owe it to yourself.