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lambada
17 yrs ago
Is it true that we always date similar people? Is it possible to break the cycle or will we just find that we are incompatible with other types?
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psychologist always maintains that we date men that are similar to our fathers or a significant male in our lives. the similarities always involves certain aspects of personality and mannerisms. hence we seem to date similar men.
on another hand we date men who are similar to our own personality. on that basis, we may find ourselves dating men who are least similar to our personality as "incompatible" with us
i thinkthe adage "takes one to know one" works quiet well on this case.
it may be possible to break the cycle. but it will take a lot more work to make it work.
based on my experience, i get along better men who have a similar personality to me than men who are least similar.
yeah i guess we date similar men..
(id may be wrong tho)
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no body does.. its hard wired in our systems.
you can understand a person who is more like you.
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no , when i find a "date" i am looking for variety and differences. Could be physical , psychological , nationality , personal interests or "mind-set" , its possible that our "long term partners" we have less choice in and mimic our parents. I do not look for anyone who precisely fits anything.
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selda
17 yrs ago
Life is a bitch.
I am usually attracted to men like my father, that is very handsome, emotionally distant, apparently confident, but deep down quite insecure.
Well, it's a recipe for disaster.
On the other hand i attract very likeable men who have been trying very hard to have a relationship with me, but i my heart is not there. I tried and tried and tried...but in the end i always fall hard for the messed up ones rather than the nice, solid, caring, devoted types.
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selda: join the club... i think its the same problem for most of us single women out there...
:(
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Interestingly, I think all the responses are from women. I wonder if men are the same?
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i think men are likely to have a variety of girls personality wise and appearance wise
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Then there is the pure lust factor and opposites attract,or why so many divorces,breakups and cheating?
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San12
17 yrs ago
Does anyone believe in horoscopes? It's curious that I am often drawn to certain star signs, even when it comes to platonic friends. Not that I consciously look for people born on certain dates but when I really get along with someone, I am often surprised to find that his or her sign will match mine.
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There has been a couple of threads on horoscopes already, which is why I didn't mention it. I always get Aries. Both my G/F and ex wife have the same birthday. I'm scorpio.
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San12
17 yrs ago
I looked up Scorpio-Aries compatibility and it seems like a challenging match:
http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/venusscorpiocompatibility.html
For me, I don't say no immediately when I meet someone with an incompatible star sign but I certainly take more time to get to know them before getting together, and watching out for the potential problem spots that have been highlighted.
I'm a Leo and over the years, I've learnt that while I can be great friends with Gemini and Leo men, I don't want to be with them in a romantic relationship. In fact, some of them are still friends and I have no desire to bring the relationship further.
But I guess there're always exceptions to the rule. Life often works in funny ways, so let's see...
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i am male , lambada. I cant answer for all men but if we are just talking dating , i dont beleive men are thinking of their mother , but in marriage ... it is possible. Men like variety , thats why these forums are full of men looking for something , anything .....
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Relationships happen before you even know the person... (my opinion at least)
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selda
17 yrs ago
Some relationships might start only in your mind...i must be a hopeless romantic because after sleeping with someone i start thinking that i am in a relationship with him...the problem with online dating is that there is no way to tell if the guy is sleeping with other people. And he could be lying about his job, address, marital status, etc. All you have is a mobile phone number and an Internet address, and both can be cancelled in 5 minutes.
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They do say your soulmate is a mirror of yourself.Just make sure he is not a picture of Dorian Gray.
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