Do you want to find out if your partner cheating/cheated on you? or you rather not to know?
If something fishy is going on with my partner, yep definitely wanna know why.
selda
18 yrs ago
I'd rather know. What's the point of being in a relationship with a cheater?? To wash his smelly socks while he is having a romantic dinner with a third party?
the situation is, my friend being with her partner for more than 5 years, living together. not aware what is going on as her job require her to travel 2-3days a week. He is seeing a girl for few months. As i know my friend spend almost every singel min with him when she's in town. so I guess He see the other girl when she's away. As how my friend trust her bf she never call when she's away ( I believe everybody have their way to deal with relationship) should i tell her?
Very true Selda...yes i would rather know also! No sense having ones head in the sand on these matters. And Yes wonerfulday...I would approach the subject with my friend and feel her out as to how she thinks about cheating and go from there. If she says yes she would want to know absolutely then I would go ahead and tell her...if she says no she wouldn't want to know then I wouldn't tell her.
If it's an ongoing affair then yes would rather know.
If it's a one-off mistake genuinely regretted by guilty party then no I would rather not find out.
clan
18 yrs ago
This cheating is a relationship on the side. It is persistant and on going. If you know it cannot be too secret. There is nothing worse than finding out later that everyone knew (and that comes from experience)I would hope a good friend would tell me. What she does with that information is up to her. You run the risk of being the brunt of her anger and hurt but I felt only gratitude at knowing the truth. If it was a one off fling then I personally would not want to know as that could be seen as a bad choice, error in judgement, momant of madness and best forgotten......
Wonderfulday:
You shld tell ur friend abt it if its real that her bf is cheating on her cos he definitely broke her trust by cheating on her.
I've been exactly in your situation and I did tell my friend about her boyfriend indiscretion. The result? She was very mad, they had huge fights but they are still together.
And I lost a friend, she is avoiding me since, like is my fault for the situation she is in. Think about it twice. Better stay away.
I don't think its her duty to tell her bf and if he is cunning, he cld actually turn around n said ur trying to ruin the relationship. Tell ur friend and let ur friend do the talking or watever. That's wat friends are for.
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