how long does it take to fall in love? part 2

sorry to create another thread. I have trouble reply to mind or any thread.


thanks for the replies. I had talk to my boyfriend about this. he kept telling me 4 months is a very short time specially this is a LDR.


As some of you said, love shouldn't court by time. I just have a feeling he's not going the same direction as what normal couple are going. couple of days ago I couldn't hold it anymore and push him to get things clear after a few drinks (I was visiting him) He said he's not ready. never directly answer my question.


Next day morning I told him I am done with him. I am not trying to push him to love me. I just want him to be fair with me and too tired over shadow under his pervious relationship. Tired feeling I am not good enough and will never be. He refused to break up and I didn't go on with this conversation. coz come to this point I don't think there's anything we can talk about. I was cold to him for a few hours. Than thought I was leaving the next day, and you just can't hate someone coz he doesn't love you. so we were fine for the rest of the day.


btw, don't take me wrong. He is a wonderful person with a golden heart. he's been very sweet, generous and supportive. but as you've been in love before. you can feel that love is not there. And yes, I am in love with him. That's why I am so upset and feel so wrong have to tell myself stop loving him coz he's not going to love me back. no matter what he done, I always wonder does that mean he loves me or he just being a MR. Nice


This morning when he send me off to the airport he told me he loves me. I told him right away I don't believe him.

Do what ur heart tells u...if u think its not going to work out, then leave the relationship.

Seville, Thanks for your replied. it actually woke me up and remind who I am and what I was looking for in relationship. Am not looking for marriage and have kids. I believe if you love each other a pices of paper is nothing. but you need love. so I was stuck there.

my boyfriend is not a player. that's for sure. as you said he's not ready and he does love me in his way. I was very stubbon. thanks for give me that snap on my head.

Guess when you get older, hear and see all others or expreience 1st hand heard broken, betrayal, ect ect. you got scare. when you met someone you like you were dying for some insurance. make sure they love you before you input your love. walk away before you get hurt. I was too scare, too concentra on what I will lose and try run away before I get hurt and completly ignor all beautiful things infornt of me.


Thank you all for the advice and it's really mind waking with some different advice specially from a player.