Did you know the moment you met??

Ok, here are a few burning qu's I have about relationships. Been out of the loop for a while and interested to see what has changed.... I was with my husband for a total of seven years and four of these were married. He left about a year ago... Anyways, I did the contemporary thing and placed my profile on an internet dating site and hooked up with a few odd bods but nothing scary - they just didnt go anywhere after the first meeting. But a fellow I have recently met, well, that was "wow" at the first meeting. Previously, we had exchanged a couple of emails and a few great calls and then met up. We have seen @ other only on three occassions for a reasonable amount of time and it is wonderful. So, the burning qu...do you know when you know? And is slow and steady wins the race or does one jump in boots and all. I am appreciative of any one who has the time to reply. By the way, I dont do the bars and clubs thingo and with a small one at home dont get out much so the conventional way meeting people was out but I honestly believe the search is over. I think I am resisting too cos despite having been in a marriage, my husband simply wasnt present to me and it was just like living alone. I say this because now I have the diamond in front of me and I dont know what to do with it. Thanks...

I always jump, and I ended up with bruises. Its hard to slow down especially when you act through instincts. So no matter how impatient you might get, I'll say try to take it one step at a time. Or you can live in together since you'll never know the person's true color until you share the same roof.

Just wondering what anyone thinks of preserved bean curd? Spicy / with chilis... on congee... not the smelly type from Mong kok


Methinks it not too popular amongst the expat folk?

Thank you to naima and pumpkin. Good advice. Squid, I think you need the food and recipes forum, but, erm, just in case you were wonderin', this gweilo loves your tucker - including the preserved bean curd. Aiy yaaahhhh.....

Lucky you to have met someone that you REALLY LIKE so quickly. It sounds like you're going about it the right way as it is. Because you have a little one at home, it is important to understand that whatever you do will have an impact on your son/daughter as well. Why not continue dating this fellow and eventually introduce him to your child, see how they relate to one another and just take it slowly. It's so exciting to feel those exhilarating "rushes" when you're with someone that you're mad about, but it's important to develop your relationship so that you are friends as well as more and that he is suitable to be a part of your family.

Have fun and good luck !!

thanks twinkletoes for your reply


btw it's not 'my' tucker. but i was wondering what others thought

we knew w/in 24hrs. went in w/out expecting anything other than no-strings fun, now in a relationship for over 2 years. never felt as close to someone before.

doesn't happen frequently, but when it does, just go for it.

Jump - and you risk getting bruised... be reserved and you risk playing games and losing out... no guarantees either way - so just go with your gut and enjoy yourself