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cammela
17 yrs ago
i felt in love with my bf 2years ago,but he traveled a lot because of his job,then i used internet to find other guys and meet other guys(but no sex)and even a guy flew to china from usa because of me,he found out what i did,so we seperated,now he moved back to shanghai again because of new business,but still needs to travel a lot,he contacted with me again,but i asked if i am still his gf,he didnt answer,he said career is his main gf,but he still loves me and also hates me,then i said better we just stay as friends or maybe strangers,he didnt agree,
i am confused,what does he want to do?and what shall i do?i still love him,but i also know he is not marriage type,and i also fear he comes back to fool me
i need suggestions,please
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"but i also know he is not marriage type,and i also fear he comes back to fool me"
you have the answer but you don't want to accept it. no fruit and no trust. what does your love remains?
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My Dear Cammela. You know the answer, so, move on to find what you want. Smile and be Happy.
Cheers :-)
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Thanks for your suggestions,but i do have some feelings with him
I knocked at his door on Friday night,no one answered,then i called him and smsed him,till now i got nothing back
What the hell is it
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I talked to him and said we could be friends or strangers,he didnt agree,i regret what i did
but now i dont know what he wants and what i should do
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' called him and smsed him,till now i got nothing back' << I think it's obvious what he wants.
Men want to be with with girls, men like girls. We have inny and outie bits that they like to play with. If this guy doesn't call you back, then it's pretty obvious that he doesn't want to talk to you, and doesn't even want to play with the inny and outie bits.
You ruined what you had with this guy. Try to learn from the experience with your next relationship.
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But he contacted with me when i wanted to give up,now he disappeared again,he just wants to fool me?i feel like an idiot
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Yes,i feel lonely,but he never knows,maybe we are looking for different things in our lives
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It's a terrible thing to say, flashback, but in my girly chats, I hear a lot of women are like that! I think women don't like to be alone, everyone needs someone to make them feel good about themselves.
Recently, a friend told me she's been sleeping with other men behind her boyfriend's back. When I asked her why she didn't just dump her boyfriend and then see other guys, she told me she didn't want to be alone.
It's selfish, but unfortunately, she appears not to be the only one!
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Thank for you guys to wake me up,i always complain he doesnt care me and he is always far from me,but actually i am the one who did a lot of sh*t,but never think about my own problems
thanks again
i will learn from experience
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sympa
17 yrs ago
I think this is pretty what happens to many other guys here in Shanghai.
You find a pretending-to-be-nice girl,after some time ,she begins to mess around with other guys and sometimes you don't know she is already seeing someone..
Cammela,I think you must know what you want and then give peace to this guy..
He is desperately working for his future and maybe wanted to build the future with you,so don't mess around with him,what you did to him is enough..
I met a girl like you and she was even worse ..She didn't realize that she was wrong and then wanted to come back.She was so selfish that she even wanted to mess with my job,She gave me a lot of pressure,and you know what?I had to change everything from flat,cell no,...It's like you are being eaten alive.Thanks God that I overcame this..So change yourself.and prepare the best for your next relationship..
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thanks for ur suggestion,i am not ur ex,i am not bothering him,that is all.but i
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thanks for ur suggestion,i am not ur ex,i am not bothering him,that is all.but i totally
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but i am not sure he wanted to build a future with me,that is why i felt unsecurity
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sympa
17 yrs ago
Cammela,you are totally right,you are not my ex,you are better than my ex,as you felt unsecure with him,then move on,but I don't know if you ever talked to him about it, communication in a relationship is very important..It would be surprising for him to trust you if you ever were back with him again..
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That is what i think he wont trust me again,but i dont know why he still keeps on seeing me,i asked him to choose a way:gf or just friend,even stranger,i want things to be clear,but i dont know what he wants to do
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perhaps he feels lonely too whenever he comes back home, just like u do when he is away most of the time.
I was in such a relationship too but gave it up, we didnt even communicate for mths, he kept saying that he wanted to focus on his career, biz. I gave him a lot of space and time when we were together.
Maybe u can give him an ultimatium e.g he needs to give u an answer by certain date otherwise its better to move on.
Anyway trust is the basic fundamental thing in a relationship. Since he dont even trust u anymore, i dont really forsee how the both of u can ever move into another level, marriage.
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you need to sit down and talk and sort the matter.
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"i felt in love with my bf 2years ago,but he traveled a lot because of his job,then i used internet to find other guys and meet other guys(but no sex)and even a guy flew to china from usa because of me,he found out what i did,"
What part of this doesn't jive? Do you honestly before you didn't sleep with the other men? Too funny. Both of you should cut this loose and move on. The trust has disappeared, so forget about building a long term relationship.
"i am confused,what does he want to do?and what shall i do?i still love him,but i also know he is not marriage type,and i also fear he comes back to fool me
i need suggestions,please"
If you love him you wouldn't try to seek other men to begin with. And to get a guy to fly over from the US to meet you? Wow, he must be terribly lonely at home .... You got what you asked for.
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